is it wholesome to make unwise financial decisions to conform to arbitrary social standards? feels more wholesome to enjoy playing together on the playstation instead, you can get really pretty oxidized titanium rings for basically nothing.
Sorry to poo poo the wholesomeness, but you should not be selling your possessions to buy an engagement ring. You should be buying a ring that is within your income to afford. An engagement ring is definitely one of those “it’s the thought that counts” purchases. If it is not, that is a massive red flag.
But they had a PS4, wanted an engagement ring instead and sold the PS4 for money they could use to buy the ring. Seems… fine to me? You don’t have to hold on to everything you own.
You don’t have to spend that much for a ring if just wanting a ring is your concern. You can get a ring for like 20$ on amazon if having one is all you care about. If he didn’t want the PS4 anymore why buy him another one?
Fuck that. An engagement ring is something she’ll have for the rest of her life. You will never be able to give her an engagement ring for the first time again. Stretch a little. Show her how much she means to you. Yes, it’s materialistic, but it’s also important to most women.
An engagement ring is something she’ll have for the rest of her life
The rest of the marriage**
I mean you shouldn’t sell your car, but selling what amounts to a toy, in order to buy a bit nicer ring than you can afford, is a good way to get some extra cash AND show that you’re in it to win it.
Emm no. It’s an empty gesture in a system that hijacked it to say “more expensive more love”. Don’t buy an expensive ring, period.
This is an item that might be used every day for the rest of your life (even beyond your life). You wouldn’t spring for a slightly better one? Moissanite exists, as do lab diamonds if you want to go cheaper and look the same.
Definitely pay more than $500 for something that may outlast you. If you or your spouse doesn’t like the ring because it’s cheap, that’s a worse deal that spending thousands on something that you actually use.
Imagine a ring that costs $10K that is worn every day for 10 years. It looks amazing. $2.74 per time worn. Now imagine a ring that costs $500 that’s only worn once a month for sentimental value. Over 10 years that’s $4.17 per time worn. It’s more expensive because you don’t like wearing it.
No, I wouldn’t buy a ring at all, since rings are a cashgrab.
I can also imagine the 10k invested into something actually useful instead of a futile gesture. Imagine being pragmatic and not buying a trinket by selling your other belongings.
There is no reason to buy a 10k ring.
All luxury items are a “cashgrab”. You don’t have to buy any of them. If you wouldn’t buy one at all, why are you commenting? I don’t wear a watch, but I also don’t go on threads about watches and say “I wouldn’t buy a watch at all”.
Forget about money, I think you need to invest your time better.
I’m commenting because I can, and you can’t make me not comment. I can voice my opinion, you can do with it what you will, other than prevent me from saying stuff
