cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/823828

because it can be if people start to treat them differently when they stop looking appealing they may don’t understand it at first and later maybe have a depression and no plan b

  • Dadifer@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    I try to emphasize the value of hard work more than anything else. I don’t say, “wow, you’re so smart,” I say, “wow, you worked so hard on that.” I will say, “you look nice,” but more often, “good job working on your hair.”

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      Yup, this is exactly it. When I praise their appearance, it’s always something my kids actively did: picked out an outfit, styled their hair, etc., or even grooming and hygiene choices.

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      Yep. “Wow, you picked out a cool outfit” is another way to compliment actual work and creativity rather than genetic lottery winnings.