“Love need not be confined to acts of self-renunciation, nor should it even be construed primarily so. Instead, we need to return to the roots of love in desire (eros). And, on the other hand, the erotic need not be consigned to reproducing natural patterns. Eros is an expression of, and aims at, freedom, the creation of the new. Love-as-eros seeks out connection and mutual satisfaction. And, potentially, it gives birth.”