you might be an introvert, passionate about your job, or simply old enough to disregard friendships at work because you already have enough friends and a family.
The coworkers I like the most are the ones that come to work, don’t like drama, do their job and go home. That’s what I try to do.
However, there are always some established cliques who know how to play the unit / supervisor and get away doing much less, even feeling entitled to order you around, even though they are not your supervisor.
To people who experience this. How do you tolerate it? Even after changing jobs, this can happen at your new workplace, maybe it happens in every workplace?
It’s a universal thing, you’ll see that everywhere. The only thing you can change about it is your mindset.
You see that they aren’t doing what you’re doing, and you’re jealous. That’s natural, but would you want to put the time and energy required to buddy up with the boss as much as these other people do? Do you want to learn the bosses favorite snack and bring some in? Do you want to go sit with co-workers at a bar after work and listen to their personal bullshit?
I don’t. So, I go to work, I do my job, and I get paid. Let them have all that other stuff. Even if it’s not how you deal with life, they’re using their skills (being charming) to survive just like how you use your skills (doing the job) to accomplish the same thing.
You can never see all the work that gets people where they are, so don’t assume that it requires more or less effort or skill than what you’re doing.