I regret something and could use some advice on how to move past it. Recently, I was browsing YouTube and saw a comment from someone asking for help removing a stuck ring because their finger had swelled in the morning. I responded with a possible solution. A few minutes later, I deleted that comment and reposted the same advice, but this time, I also asked them to record and upload a video of the ring removal attempt.
Unfortunately, by the time I added the request to record, they had already seen my first comment and used the method I suggested. It took them one hour in total to remove the ring. I was really looking forward to seeing a video of the process because no existing videos are that long (most are around 30 minutes at most). They even mentioned they had a tool that could have easily recorded the attempt, so I missed a great opportunity to see this interesting and lengthy ring removal.
Now, I feel such regret because I had control over the situation but still wasted this chance. I know it is trivial in the grand scheme of things since it is just for entertainment, but I cannot help but feel disappointed. Asking the person to get their ring stuck again just to record it is obviously not an option, so I will never be able to see that footage.
Since this did not really affect my life in a major way, the usual advice on how to get rid of regret might not be as effective. How do I move past this feeling of missing out on something that could have been really interesting to watch?
Even if the opportunity presented itself, it’s not necessarily the case that it would have come to fruition. Chances are that person wouldn’t have bothered to make a video even with your request, because they were likely panicking about their stuck ring. I’d be happy that my advice helped the person out without pushing my luck to get a video out of it too.
I talked with this person about recording it, and they said that they were actually going to record it by using a tool that can record these kinds of footages, had I not been too late.
Okay, but you have to realize that they’re under no obligation to please you.
I mean, this post is about how to get rid of regret, not about forcing the person to record it.
Genuinely, can we stop downvoting OP’s comments and post? No matter how little you can relate to this, it’s not justified to downvote someone not understanding why others find this weird. My god, this is No Stupid Questions, the last place where we should punish someone for confessing something that is important for them!
Be humane. Treat other people’s struggles with respect.
Therapy
Legitimately the best answer here. OP sounds like they have tendencies that aren’t good for long term social and mental health.
Sound slike you’re young? You’re going to miss a shit ton more of these kind of opportunities. You’re going to have to learn to deal with it and learn from it so that you don’t make the same mistake next time.
Opportunities aren’t rare, but theyre not common either. It’s best to seize as many as you can to get as much out of life as you can.
Okay, but the thing is that while I also had other regrets, they were lessened after waiting. This however, seems like it is not going to lessen at all. Even if it seems like the regret disappeared, it comes back after one or a few days. My question is how to deal exactly with missed opportunities.
All you can do is learn from your mistakes and do better next time. That’s what mistakes are for, to learn. Without mistakes, you don’t learn.
Are we starting a ‘best of lemmy hall’ because this shit is gold. Not broken arms reddit but it’s inching there
I still don’t understand what makes this post special.
Asking the person to get their ring stuck again just to record it is obviously not an option
But still… how about trying the method on your own hand? That way, if you forget again to record it, you can have all the blame for yourself. Or, in case you can’t take it off anymore…
I recorded it a while ago, but my knuckles are too big, so the video was not that interesting. I am more interested in rings that get stuck due to swelling and fat fingers, not big knuckles.
