Hi!

I’m dating an amazing guy. He’s very sweet and caring. He’s kind of a quiet guy.

We started dating after a friend of his brought me a note he wanted to give me (but then threw away because he was indecisive) that said how much he loved me.

I took it and invited him over to my place. At first he was afraid to touch me and I took the initiative. Lately, he has become more active in this respect and is no longer afraid to just come up and hug me.

Everything would be very good, but I can’t understand one thing. Why does he always shake when we hug? I’ve asked him about it, but he keeps silent or blushes or says “I’m sorry”. I’m very worried about him and his health. Take him to doctor?

We’ve been together for 3 months. 2nd year of university. Same age.

  • yenahmik@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    I wouldn’t worry too much about it. It sounds like he is very shy and inexperienced. It’s probably just excitement/nerves. You can ask if he likes hugging or if he’d prefer something else. If he says he likes it, I wouldn’t bring it up anymore.

    • Lowlee Kun@feddit.de
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      5 months ago

      Very much this. As a person thats single for ever i also flinch when i get touched unexpectedly.

  • tjsauce@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    It sounds like he’s nervous when it comes to touch, or that it’s slightly overwhelming. If he’s blushing, that’s a good sign he’s enjoying it.