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No, I don’t believe the popular opinion is inherently the right one.
I’m not making appeals to popular opinion, my initial, and only, stance is that “free speech” is not the same as “consequence-free speech.”
No, I don’t believe the popular opinion is inherently the right one.
I’m not making appeals to popular opinion, my initial, and only, stance is that “free speech” is not the same as “consequence-free speech.”
“how the hell do you know what I want?”
That’s an inherently aggressive statement.
It’s fine, but no reasonable person would think much differently.
Also, generalizing me with “you all” is a defensive catch-all to be dismissive of my point without actually making a stand for your own values.
It’s just a you-and-me conversation right now
Read: “contextually” and “sounds more like”
If you don’t like how you’re being called out then you should be introspective into why a generic statement made you so upset.
It’s not gaslighting when there’s a straight line of evidence.
To the wider world it looks like this: “Why do people think I don’t like dogs?! Just because I said I don’t like that you can’t kick dogs without getting a ticket nowadays! I didn’t kick any, I’m just saying!”
Define “free speech,” because contextually what you want sounds more like “speech without consequence” which is not the same thing, but rather a veil of plausible deniability in which to hide in, while being hateful.
It even comes with a built-in flash to show you did it right!
You’re spot on, I no longer deal with said “veil of plausible deniability”
This is 100% how I approach all sorts of relationships in my life, not just romantic. That’s called direct and open communication.
I will straight up ask (politely) that someone clarify what their explicit stance is, if they refuse or try to play coy about it I simply let them know I don’t know where they stand and I don’t know what they want.
I’ve done this with bosses, siblings, my son, and my partner. I have grown to respect people much more because I understand them better and have also cut out some toxicity from my life that I didn’t know was eating away at my happiness.
You didn’t misremember, it was a scholarly discussion point that spread too far before it got debunked, like how some people still believe the “gum stays inside you for 7 years”