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Yeah, there’s no easy way to handle that. I don’t fault her for going in with that conception of ADHD, I think even as a person with ADHD myself I struggle to let myself acknowledge how much more deeply it affects me than “maybe a bit more chaotic or forgetful”.

It is deeply sad to see how much damage it has done to y’alls relationship.

I hope that you will consider therapy for yourselves, and perhaps also couple’s therapy so that, as another commenter suggested, you can at least try to end things amicably and with as much empathy for eachother as possible if things are at their end

Having read through the thread some more and reflected, I think a huge part of the issue is that people really don’t fully grasp how much of a disability ADHD is. I’m going through process of making peace with a different disability, and if I start seriously dating someone there’s no way someone could miss how big of an impact it would have on the relationship. I’m essentially nocturnal. My living space can’t have any windows. I wouldn’t really be able to sleep in bed with my partner because I sleep at the wrong time. Life with me would be radically different in many ways than with a different partner.

If someone starts dating someone in a wheelchair they intuitively grasp that there will be things that their partner can or can’t do that will change the way the relationship looks.

But ADHD doesn’t really get the same respect as a disability, and I feel like that makes it so easy for it to take both partners way too long to see how grave of an impact it can have.

Research has found that ADHD being untreated can reduce life expectancy by as much as 13 years. It’s absolutely a disability, and it’s easy even for us with ADHD to not really fully appreciate just how much it affects us.

That doesn’t change the fact that it has done damage to your relationship. But I do think it is worth having empathy for yourself. This is such a painful thing for both of you I am sure

Please take care of yourself my friend 🫂 I’m sorry that things are in such a painful place. I hope that there are good things in your future, regardless of what shape they may take.

Happy threadiverse anniversary :)

And also Thanksgiving if you celebrate it ☺️

I use peertube.wtf and have had no issues if thats of help. There’s an artist on peertube who posts his music I’ll see if I can check what instance he’s on…

He’s on communitymedia.video :)

Hope either of these are helpful suggestions :)

Some context on why this is uplifting might be helpful :)

Lol

I’m not sure if you meant to reply to me or to op. I’m not in particular need of a mouse drawing 😅

I don’t know that op is either, I think they were more just trying to create a fun way for people to engage with the community by doing a small contest, but I could be mistaken

Christ is that relevant to leftwing spaces, especially online, and to the threadiverse

Thank you for sharing, I really appreciate having seen this

Sending love and support this is such a painful thing to navigate 🫂

There are many places on lemmy where gen ai may be a valid way to participate in things, but I do not feel this is one of them, and I think you’d be hard pressed to find any creatives on lemmy who feel otherwise

Ai generated images aren’t art. This is a space for people who make things, not a space for algorithms designed to spit out statistically probable images in response to a description.

I don’t say this to be combative op, just wanted to clarify from the perspective of someone who does do art, and considers it a sacrosanct celebration of the human experience. Art is deeply important to us art people ❤️

I’m mega burnt out and overwhelmed trying to get ready for Thanksgiving but if I’m able maybe I’ll do a little mouse in the snow doodle, I think this idea of little prompts are a fun way to engage with eachother here, whether they’re contests are not :)

I love them so much 🥹

Yeah as much as people are skeptical of google, malware bytes updated their original reporting to say they were mistaken

Google can still go fuck themselves but this seems like it was a false alarm

Thats cool as hell, thanks for posting

These are beautiful! I’m obsessed with your hatching!

Yeah thats very fair. My impression is that Draynos hacks are usually not brutal, but there’s no version that doesn’t patch difficulty so if you like the challenges you either play with higher difficulty or you pick a different patch

I want more vanilla+, so I’m usually a tad bummed about that, but people regard his hacks really highly, even if theyre less what I’m looking for :)

I hope you find the right one for you! ☺️

I enjoyed seeing this, thanks for posting it!

Subbed ☺️

Thanks for making this thread, I didn’t really realize it worked this way either!

When I’ve posted to lemmy from mastodon, you “@” the community, treating it like a user which is interesting. The underlying guts of the fediverse are fascinating lol

I just wanna stop for a moment and say I really appreciate all the hard work you’re doing.

Its really not the easiest to find news stories that are sincerely really good news, and not just a slight letup of something awful.

Your posts make my timeline a much nicer place and I really appreciate it ❤️

That sounds like absolute hell lol- best of luck my friend, may your patience last longer than mine would! ❤️