I honestly can’t imagine a better Lizzy than Keira Knightley 🥲

Jennifer Ehle would like to have a word with you.

Honestly I find all of the covid years kind of hard to remember, and I know a lot of people who feel the same. I bet that Trump 1 mostly gets wrapped up and suppressed with all the rest of the general trauma.

I still just keep a paper log in my notebook. It’s been working for me since 2013 so no reason to switch now!

Thanks! Slowly but surely :)

I many cases, no. Where I live, a 16-year-old cannot:

• vote
• enlist in the armed forces
• sign legally binding contracts
• legally purchase alcohol, tobacco products, or cannabis
• buy lottery tickets or gamble at a casino
• serve on a jury
• buy or sell property
• marry
• inherit money or property
• own a credit card
• fully control their own medical decisions
• register as an organ donor
• quit school
• get a tattoo or a body piercing
• move out of their parents’ house

Some of these things can be done with parental consent or if particular circumstances apply (such as if the child in question is legally emancipated). But broadly speaking, there are a LOT of rights, responsibilities, and options that do not apply to anyone before the age of majority (18 here).

Crushes are like the common cold, I think. Sometimes they appear out of nowhere, and we have to endure them until they pass, but we don’t have to indulge them.

Something that can help is to pick something that’s an annoyance about that person, or a reason that you wouldn’t actually want to be with them, and redirect your thoughts toward that when you find yourself thinking of them. It can be something really important (“No; I could never be with a married man!”) or even something very dumb or superficial (“Ugh, hairy ears!”). It doesn’t really matter, as long as it’s something that helps to train your mind/heart away from “I want” and towards “I don’t want.”

If you know you can’t be with someone, or wouldn’t really want to outside of whatever fantasy you’re indulging, then finding ways to stop indulging in that romantic daydream is the best thing for both you and them.

Edit: something else to ask yourself is whether this is actually about this man, or about something he’s come to represent to you. You’re a long way from home in a foreign culture. Are you really looking for his love, or are you craving something he represents (stability, home life, end of loneliness, etc.)? It’s worth reflecting on.

I like the in-universe swears from some of Brandon Sanderson’s fantasy novels: Rust (rusting, rusted) and storms (storming) come to mind.

A québecoise roommate of mine got her whole office yelling “chicken FRITE” (fried chicken in franglais).

“What the shoes” is kind a fun one. I’ll also yell “fudge knuckles!” which doesn’t really mean anything but is pretty satisfying to say.

My uncle dropped out of law school right before the bar exam because he wanted to work with his hands. He was a happy car mechanic until he retired. Not having a degree doesn’t say anything about your intelligence or the value of your work.

https://support.google.com/legal/troubleshooter/1114905?hl=en

Yes, I’m in Canada! You get a much earlier spring than we do with the advantage of the gulf stream. I live in a very temperate part of the country, but we still haven’t reached our “last frost” date, and even though some perennials are starting to bloom we still go below freezing some nights. I expect our dandelions in 6-8 weeks probably.

Oui, je les gardes. Ma alliance original était c’elle de ma belle-mère. Elle est mort depuis longtemps (plusieurs années avant que j’avais rencontré mon mari) alors c’est quelque-chose que je chéris. J’ai plusieurs bagues comme ça et peut-être mes filles peuvent les porter quand elles sont grandis.

I’m not sure, actually! Maybe I’ll do both and compare once they start growing this spring.

D’habitude je porte seulement ma alliance. C’est argent et très simple, car j’avais besoin de remplacer l’originale. Mes doigts ont grandis quand j’etais enceinte (il y a onze ans) et je ne peux plus porter mes vieux bagues.

Dehors de l’alliance je porte des boucles d’oreilles de temps en temps. Je préfère des petits boules comme des perles. Je n’aime pas les colliers, ils me fait penser que je me suffoque.

… or just leave.

I think you’d probably be better off talking to a local financial advisor and/or real estate agent than just asking lemmy over and over.

Evidence suggests you were mistaken for a bot.

The Arthurian legends come to mind.

I’m a big rereader in general, but occasionally a book will grab me so hard that I finish it & begin again right away. I’ve had two of those in the past year:

• Moonbound by Robin Sloan
• Cahokia Jazz by Francis Spufford

I don’t think it means that silence will necessarily benefit you materially – rather that silence is something precious or valuable. Maybe consider the proverb’s relation to these similar ones:

Still waters run deep.

Better to close one’s mouth and be thought a fool, than open one’s mouth and prove it.

The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things.

The prudent keep their knowledge to themselves, but a fool’s heart blurts out folly.

A wise old owl sat in an oak:
The more he heard, the less he spoke.
The less he spoke, the more he heard;
Why aren’t we all like that wise old bird?

To me, “breakfast” food is just whatever you eat that breaks your fast after sleeping. I eat a lot of dinner leftovers for breakfast, otherwise something filling like oatmeal with nuts and fruit in it. (Provided I don’t just drink my tea and then forget to eat, which is also something that happens.)