and who is that?

Good save

I may be contemplative but I’m not refined, I’m quick to anger, and I treat my body like shit. I’ll never be him.

That’s because it’s not an insinuation. I think if you take off the bad vibes only lens it’s pretty obvious that this is a sarcastic way of describing a type of man who is refined and contemplative, probably not quick to anger, cares about their health. And these are painted as desirable traits since this is a guide on how to attain them.

I think you could stand to try to make sense of nuanced irony a little better. You would at least be a little less agitated day to day.

You think saying pussy makes me sociopathic? You are the type of person that I mentioned I’m happy to repel. The type of person who makes such a dire judgement based on such a small infraction. If my vocabulary makes you want to stay away from me then it’s working.

Something is severely distorting your perception of how serious this is. The moral grandstanding is fucking unreal. Why don’t you tell me what’s actually gonna happen if I keep saying it? What are the maximum fucking stakes? Someone gets slightly uncomfortable? You just can’t stand that I won’t kneel to your purity bullshit and it’s making you irrational. The more I resist the more you escalate. Slinging shit around like “sociopath” makes this a tantrum.

I maintain that you’re projecting. Get a grip.

It really doesn’t feel like you’re talking to me here. This entire comment is just making me out to be some archetypal cartoon character. Like you think I’m some sort of right-wing manosphere MAN UP fitness influencer or some shit. Whatever point you have is just not going to land when you’re addressing this hologram of me that you’ve constructed instead of actually addressing me. Like I said, too much focus on signals, counter-signals, etc.

It’s so obnoxious. It’s like this game of recognize the signals and connect the dots until you figure out which box to put me in. But you are totally wrong. You know nothing about me. I don’t give a fuck about “being a man” or a tough guy. I don’t mention it for a lot of reasons, primarily because of rising fascism, but I’m literally nonbinary bro. Why the fuck would I care?? I also don’t view people as NPCs, though it seems that you do, based on your eagerness to cast me into a cartoon character.

You are projecting. It is super fucking obvious. You haven’t accurately described me at all, but it sounds like you’ve accurately described the person you are ashamed that you once were. Get a grip. Maybe you feel like you need to atone for your past by doing whatever this is. I don’t know. But let me be clear. Your assumptions about me are based on nothing and they’re incorrect. I’m not going to address them one by one because this is getting exhausting, but believe me that you don’t know who I am.

“Most people.” Come on now. You should be able to tell by now that I’m not “most people” and I don’t want to be. Most people are hyper sensitive to others’ perception of them. They anxiously squirm around to reshape themselves into something that pleases everyone around them. I told you already that the only opinion that has bearing on my self-worth is my own. If someone mistakes me for something that I’m not, it’s exactly that: a mistake. And it’s their problem, not mine. I don’t want to be around people who’d make such a dire judgement based on such a minuscule perceived infraction. I’m happy to repel that type of person.

And about it not being effective communication? I’m not buying it. You call someone a pussy, it stings 10% more than coward does, and that gets your point across loud and clear. I feel like you’re trying to tell me that if someone is acting cowardly I should gently, politely facts-and-logic them out of an emotional conundrum. No, you give them a zap and it flips a switch in their brain. This type of jolting speech is what actually works to alter behavior in the moment.

Good people are still gonna use bad slang. Obvious we disagree where the line is for both of those things but this one point stands regardless. It’s one of those things that always has been and always will be. Make your peace with it. Focus on changing people’s actual opinions instead of focusing on signals, counter-signals, counter-counter-signals. It’s such a god damn waste of time.

I know that there are words like this that I struggle with but I don’t remember which ones. I can’t fathom knowing a word like this, knowing I can’t spell it, and just like… being okay with that? Like bro, do what little kids do. Write it down on a piece of paper ten times. Spell it out loud. It takes 3 minutes to permanently commit it to memory. You’re gonna let first graders be better at this than you, an adult, with a fully developed brain?

Cats would elect him for half a can of tuna. I wouldn’t. What’s your point again?

I have no concern with being cool or uncool because the only opinion that has bearing on my self worth is my own. Anyway, I’d laugh because being offended by the word is just… baseless? People can be offended by anything, reasonable or not, and it’s each individuals responsibility to cope with that. It’s not like I’m dropping N bombs or calling them a whore. I’m comparing them to a fucking cat. Cowardice is an unacceptable trait in adults and tolerating it does far more harm to the coward in question than calling them out on it does.

Christ. You are going to need to be surgically detached if you ever decide to get off your high horse. I get that you used to be misogynistic or an asshole or something, so now you’re extra sensitive about it, projecting maybe, whatever. This is another one of those things where it’s YOUR responsibility to cope with it, not mine.

I say what I mean and I get my point across. Do I actively want to offend people? No, of course not. But it’s not nearly at the top of my list of concerns. If it hurts someone’s feelings, they are free to talk to me about it. If they make sense, I’ll adjust my behavior and apologize. Something along the lines of “when I was a piece of shit I used that word in a piece of shit way” does not sway me. I’m not you bro. I’m not malicious. I’m a straight-talker, and people value that.

good job bud! you get a gold star for respecting women ⭐

jokes aside live your life but I still say it. I’m not gonna stop saying it. If someone accused me of misogyny for it I’d laugh in their face and call them something a lot worse.

You’re probably right about pussy (vagina) originally meaning pocket but I don’t think it does anymore. People now euphemistically refer to vaginas as a “kitty” or sometimes they even use a cat emoji.

People believing that pussy (coward) is a reference to vaginas AND people who think it’s short for pusillanimous are people who let their politics color their perception of the world. Men who hate women, women who hate men, and men who hate that women hate men. It’s conspiratorial thinking all around.

“pussy” as in coward and “pussy” as in vagina are both references to cats. pussycats. we call cowards pussies because cats scare easily. we call vaginas pussies because they are soft and delicate (not actually, but that’s how we want to treat them)

this doesn’t have to be a misogyny thing, and anti-misogyny thing, or an anti-anti-misogyny thing. everyone just fucking chill out about this word, ffs

You don’t know what a joke is. Lmfao

KDE is objectively the better DE from a technical standpoint (in my objective opinion) but sometimes GNOME just feels right in the moment. I have both installed and switch between them all the time

You’re delusional in the other direction. Take the normalpill, bro. Reality is more or less neutral to you almost all the time.

dude, 15 minutes? I watched my friend take a dab for the first time and he was unresponsive for two fucking hours. He was standing upright staring at the horizon without moving an inch. He only spoke once, about an hour in, and he said “time is nothing”

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no one – not one man – is calling them out. They’re patting each other on the back.

being surprised by this makes no sense, it’s like expecting people at a Hitler convention to call each other out for liking Hitler

edit: if you expect anything but the worst from users of reddit, discord, and 4chan, you’re insane.

Exhibit A, Your Honor.