I want to believe leave!

To be fair, I’m not at all offended by your desires! I understand that some folks have desires that are not necessarily rooted to reality. A fantasy, and that’s perfectly fine. Of course no one wants PTSD.

I think my concerns lie in that disconnect, though. Someone fantasizing about a threesome, meeting a historical figure, or a positive experience is something I’d understand. A desire to experience a tragedy? It’s a bit alarming. Even knowing that you’re just curious about the factual experience, the disassociation from the reality of human suffering paired with the events may cause a pause.

If you’re questioning yourself about your desires or people close to you have expressed concern over these thoughts, I’d say go to a professional and talk to someone. Otherwise, research into it. Explore these events, read,watch documentaries, interviews, and things like that.

The human mind is a weird thing. Not inherently bad– just weird. And it’s okay to explore that and think about things sometimes.

I am a sufferer of PTSD from various horrific traumas.

In short: yes. It’s weird. You should talk to a professional about it.

If I could take away these debilitating, paralyzing memories and responses my body has formed due to trauma, I would. It prevents me from living a normal life and I suffer from it every day. Even have a note in my charts that lets medical professionals know that my massively elevated heart rate & blood pressure are a trauma/anxiety-response, not an underlying condition.

I guess maybe I’d view your desire as those kids on Tiktok that were mimicking/cosplaying mental illness, autism, & Tourettes syndrome, because they didn’t really understand the implications of suffering that a lot of folks who have those things go through.

Again: I’d strongly suggest seeing a professional about this.

Well, yeah, and testing would cut into profits and possibly / probably require culling, which would cut into profits even more.

God bless capitalism! 🫠

Here’s a reminder that clergy has never been legally required to report child abuse.

Just throwing that out there.

Well, apparently we need a study to back that up, because people can’t use their goddamn brains.

So I was once arguing with someone about single-parent households.

They brought up that having both parents in the home is the best option for the child. I argued that if one of the parents is abusive, it’s in the best interest of the child to have a single-parent household instead.

They then demanded studies/sources to back up my claim, and berated me when I answered “Are you demanding that I provide scientific proof that not having an abuser in the home is best for the child?”

I just… ugh…

Further studies legitimize claims made about these kinds of things.

You sound like you’re in a lovely relationship!

Yes, relationships are compromise. Your goals will change. But it may be for the better or worse, depending on your partner.

What kind of compromises would you consider healthy vs. unhealthy in a partnership?

What makes you hate people?

How much time have you spent being single?

Not long enough.

Did you have a bad experience with a relationship recently or something of that nature?

Why what?

Whatever the case, I hope you are able to safely resolve things soon. Best of luck to you!

Hey, I had this experience with my former spouse. Turns out they were in jail.

Absolutely do an inmate lookup at local jails / prisons.

The “friends answering emails on his behalf”–thing sounds a bit fishy to me, as well.

If you truly are not able to find him, absolutely file a missing person’s report, as you’re still legally married.

Please be aware that Lemmy is, more often than not, extremely hostile and/or defensive towards female-centric issues or experiences, regardless of validity.

Edit: These downvotes tell me that folks are denying that this is an issue. Maybe y’all should ask / listen to women about what their experience has been discussing female-centric topics on Lemmy.

I live harmoniously with spiders. I even relocate them to areas of my home with more bugs! Helps to cut down on pantry moths.

Ants are a problem in the summer, as they often come up through the floor. So doorway corners with little barriers is the setup I give them.

I think this year I’ll be setting them up with a little cardboard “booth” so they’ll be more protected and feel more secure in a darker place near the floor.

Girl, same.

Creepin’ in the wisteria.

To be fair, many people were sold fake eclipse glasses that claimed to be safe.

I feel awful for folks who were duped.

That’s the name of my “Animal Crossing” town!