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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • Is this merely switching from Lemmy to something else, or are you leaving the fediverse completely?

    If it’s the latter, then I wish you the very best of luck. I don’t know you very well, but I remember you having had some personal issues in the past. Hopefully those aren’t coming back and you’ve just decided to simply move on. Regardless, your memes and shitposting will be missed.

    Good luck to you! Or, as a wise man once wrote, “So long, and thanks for all the fish!”














  • dohpaz42@lemmy.worldOPMtoReprieve@lemmy.zipA letter to a friend…
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    3 days ago

    I’m sorry you’re having a no good, terrible, rotten day. And it’s not selfish to feel less alone because someone else out there feels the way you feel. I do appreciate you reaching out. It does help knowing I’m not the only person who goes through shit like this, and I hope tomorrow is better day for you.


  • Unfortunately my ex couldn’t breastfeed. It was just too painful for her. So she would pump and/or we would use formula. I would give her breaks by putting the kids to bed so she could have time to herself to decompress. Every night I would fall asleep with them in my arms. Best freaking memories I have are sleeping with my kids when they were young.


  • Oh man, it’s the best feeling in the world when your kid picks you.

    My kids are 10 and 12, and we still have a bedtime routine where I lay with them for a few minutes (sometimes we chat about nothing and everything). My 12 yo has anxiety that manifests as fear of the dark, so I spend a little extra time with him. He seems mostly over it now; sometimes he’ll tell me he doesn’t want me to lay with him (I can’t help but feel pride when he does, because I know that means he’s not scared to be alone).

    Anyway, all of that to say that it’s the best feeling in the world, and I hope you have many more years with your daughter at bedtime to hang out and bond.


  • Thank you. I have to admit that the emotion dump in my email, and probably also this post, seems to have made a huge improvement to my day today. I got so much stuff done, and I had only planned on doing a couple things.

    Once I started, I just didn’t want to stop. It felt good. I’d like to think the universe threw me a bone today. I don’t care; I’ll gladly accept the charity if I can have more days like today.

    I did make a goal for myself this week. Last year, my kids got me this really cool 5-piece canvas art of Zelda BOTW. I finally started making the frames for them today, and I want to have them done and hung before they get back from the beach on Saturday. I’ve already got two of the five frames made, so I think I can tackle the rest in time.


    Also, this was extremely well written. Have you written much before? I think you should explore that in some way because you clearly have the talent for it.

    Thank you. Ironically, language arts was my worst subject in school. But I do my best. Funny enough, I did want to write a book when I was a kid. It would’ve probably ended up being similar to Aliens. But, it never happened. Your comment had me half considering writing one now; it would be different than when I was a kid, but I have a few ideas.

    I’ve been through some bad break ups myself, but I haven’t had a relationship last more than 4 years. Typically they’ve ended when my partner cheats. I’ve come close to giving up on them entirely but I still have a small spark of hope that there’s someone trustworthy out there.

    I’ve been there too. My ex was my longest relationship (~15 years total: 1 dating, 1 engaged, and about two weeks shy of 13 years married). Before that, my longest relationship was just shy of three years, and she cheated on me too.

    I too suffer from Chronic Hope Syndrome. I think that’s where most of my frustration comes from. I grew up in the 80s, and learned about relationships via TV and movies (breakfast club, better off dead, the two Corey’s). It’s a process to unlearn all that bullshit propaganda, but with days like today it seems a little more possible (dare I say, hopeful).

    I appreciate you making this community; I also appreciate your encouragement. I warn you that I will probably be using this community a lot more going forward; I’ll do my best to balance out the negative with some positives.

    Thank you again. 🙏