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ITT: OP has not discovered the name for this feeling is “depression”.
A lot of us are rooting for you OP, even if you don’t want to hear it.
ITT: OP has not discovered the name for this feeling is “depression”.
A lot of us are rooting for you OP, even if you don’t want to hear it.
Good luck on your travels! The road to enlightenment is lifelong, not a race. I wish you the best!
Ok well if you are neurodivergent, a couple things:
Autism self diagnosis is valid if you do your research. University of WA recently did a study that figured that out.
ADHD typically needs a diagnosis from a professional to be sure, but it’s not super hard to guess if you have it. Some symptoms of ADHD can be caused by other conditions (anxiety especially) so navigate that one with caution.
If you are neurodivergent, typically the answer is routines rather than habits. I find them much easier to implement. Just decide the task you want to make into a routine, decide the steps you want to do it in, and then decide to always do it that way, or at least until you want to optimize or tweak it. A simple routine I do is “keys, wallet, phone, ear buds” while tapping my pockets on the way out of the door.
Not sure if you are per se, but this is a commonly felt sentiment in the neurodivergent community. Especially ADHD and Autistic peeps.
Jumping in, I also have a lot of BPD experience (example, a marriage of well over 10 years).
This is very BPD-adjacent. I’m not saying OP’s gf has it per se, because there is no way we can know from here, but this is definitely on brand.
If you read between the lines, the social conversation could written as this:
“Heading home, I need support”
“I’ll support”
<Doesn’t support>
<She feels abandoned, fight or flight kicks in and it turns her attachment-avoidant, results in silent treatment>
<OP gives space, which is interpreted as further abandonment>
<OPGF can’t take it anymore, and asks questions that feel like they’re out of left field because in fight-or-flight kicks in, clear thought is nearly impossible>
<OP finally gives reassurance that he didn’t abandon her>
<Normalcy continues>
RyanLiu@lemmy.world read through this comment chain, therapy is the answer here.