It’s funny, I listened to Adrenaline first, decided it wasn’t for me and forgot about Deftones for a couple years. Finally listened to Saturday Night Wrist and loved it and literally every other Deftones album after that.

The differences in albums has been more subtle, but I thought what they did with Pink Cellphone and the instrumental only Konami Code were unique to their music.

This is clearly abusive behavior, and it will only escalate the longer you stick around.

Check out this book, it’s a quick read and really demystifies the behavior of abusive partners: https://archive.org/details/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/mode/2up