A year ago, I liked a 16-year-old boy. I didn’t date him nor say I liked him for obvious reasons (I was freshly 19.)

I’ve been looking for girls to experiment with to explore my bisexuality and get over my attraction to men, and there’s this one friend I have online. Not going to lie, she’s hot. But… she’s 17 and a junior in high school. I’ll be 20 in April.

Do I risk ruining the friendship and possibly have something more if she says yes (and finally see if I like women) or get over it?

Our years of birth would be 2005 for me and 2007-08 for her.

I’ve heard 17 and 19 is alright though, and that’s the age I am now! Besides, it may not be anything serious.

  • Fleur_
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    7 hours ago

    Bro this world is full of adults. Just drop the crush and find one

  • Ledericas@lemm.ee
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    12 hours ago

    as long as its not sex related, since she still a minor. if it was 17 and 24, thats wierd, because the difference in age and experience in life. i known a former co-worker that dated 17years her senior, the family was not HAPPy, and it is pretty wierd.

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    22 hours ago

    and get over my attraction to men

    This wording stuck out as alarming. Do you see anything concerning about this as a motivation to try this, regardless of age?

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    22 hours ago

    17 and 19 is a two-year gap, that’s totally fine. Don’t listen to the Twitter-damaged weirdos who say otherwise.

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      22 hours ago

      17 and 19 is a two-year gap, that’s totally fine.

      Might want to check the laws in your local jurisdiction. In the US, in some States this may be OK under Romeo and Juliet Laws (check your local laws if the whole “kill yourself from a misunderstanding” bit of the story is required). But, some States do not have such laws. No idea if/how this applies in other countries.

    • rico@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      22 hours ago

      she’s still 19, but i think they don’t like that she’s almost 20 (maybe the other girl is almost 18 tho)