- that people are perfect. We all mess up. Forgive and more importantly move on.
- that your partner will always be the same. People change over time, and so will you.
- that your love will always be the same. It changes over time
My wife doesn’t brag about me to her friends because when her friends brag about their husbands it’s insanely basic shit. For example one had Covid and was bragging about how her husband learned how to make eggs for the kids so she could get a little extra sleep in the morning. Eggs! Look, if you don’t know how to cook eggs, you don’t know how to cook. It’s a life skill, not a wife skill. Not saying you need to be the family cook, break down household chores however works best for you, but be prepared to take over any and all chores from your spouse at the drop of a hat. You never know when sickness might happen, or worse. What would you do if you suddenly became a single parent if only for a week? Know how to do it all now so you can take it on when you need to.
Why are you asking me? I’ve been married for 17 years, clearly I’m doing things right. If I was in the business of making mistakes, I wouldn’t have been married this long. All kidding aside, I often see people have a lack of interest in the other person. It should be genuine interest in the other person’s hobbies and interests. Like, my wife is really into dog training, I’m not, but still we talk about it and we do it together sometimes, just because I want to share in what she is doing and support her in it.