People keep telling me that dating today is a war zone, facing all kinds of challenges.
Dating apps don’t seem to be directly trying to help solve the problem as much as generate revenue. In fact, they are very directly motivated to not make great long term matches.
Some people seem think that just getting out there and hoping for the best is the answer. Maybe that’s true, but it’s still very random. I was wondering about a hypothetical alternative:
What if you could go to an agency of some kind get rated through a thorough evaluation process? Would that be helpful ? It’s not perfect, and many things are hard to measure. But maybe it’s a less random starting point and can escape the exclusively money driven approach of dating apps.
The only people I hear this sort of thing from IRL are also the ones who struggle to get out and make friends.
Lots of the free “third spaces” are gone. Churches are on the decline. The pandemic fucked everyone’s socialization up. This isn’t just a dating problem, it’s a relationship problem.
Paying for a matchmaking service is not a new idea. Someone with no friends and nothing to talk about besides work is still going to have a limited pool of people interested in dating them, even if they pay for matches.
I seriously think most (not all bc there are always special situations) would benefit from getting into some hobbies and maybe therapy rather than expensive matchmaking services.