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Cake day: March 13th, 2023

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  • Update 2: We are together for this weekend again.

    I’m on a waiting-list for therapy now.To overcome my jealousness and maybe learn to improve my communication-skills.

    She wants me back now, but on the premise that she will move back to her Parents house. Feels like a breakup “light” for me… Because you all know… She doesn’t make any romantic actions with me in public. Doesn’t tell colleagues about me…And the situation with sex 2-4 times a year…I don’t know… Doesn’t seem to be “it” anymore.

    For me, our bed time, with all the little rituals were pretty much the single source of energy, were I got love and affection. And obviously she wants to reduce that also now…

    Thinking to break up the relationship myself now… :(



  • Ja ich bin Deutscher. Das macht es deutlich einfacher zu schreiben. Tja 6 Jahre einfach weg… Ist echt scheiße.

    Ich danke dir auf jeden Fall dafür, dass du das alles gelesen hast und dich mit meiner Situation beschäftigt hast!

    Und vor allem auch für das Angebot!

    Aber ich glaube ich will jetzt erstmal alleine sein… Ich fühl mich im Moment noch wie betäubt…

    Ich konnte nicht weinen, wie beim ersten Mal. Sie dafür diesmal schon.

    Meinte Sie hätte mich lieber erst jetzt kennengelernt. Im Moment sieht Sie in mir nur noch die Fehler die Ich am Anfang unserer Beziehung gemacht habe. Meint aber auch das es unfair ist, weil ich mich schon deutlich gebessert habe und man das auch sieht… Es nur halt nicht reicht.

    Sie will mich nicht verletzen, aber Sie ist nicht mehr glücklich.

    Sie will es sich heute nochmal durch den Kopf gehen lassen und mir morgen mitteilen ob es diesmal endgültig ist…

    Zum Glück ist das Remaster von Oblivion released worden und ich hab noch Urlaub. Schlafen kann ich jetzt eh erstmal nicht mehr :/




  • GeraltvonNVIDIA@lemmy.mlOPtoRelationship Advice@lemmy.worldIm driving nuts
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    8 months ago

    Yeah I agree. That is one part of the problem, because I try to reach her and talk about things and she is really fast annoyed about all that.

    I respect her boundaries and normally she does respect mine.

    In the meantime she texted me, but not to this context. She just ignored it. I will drive in 2 hours to her parents house and will talk about it than.

    I really just want to be a part of that for one time. So he knows that I am still in a relationship with her. And after that she can met him alone for some time again.

    Because as mentioned, she doesn’t tell anyone about me (apart from parents and close friends. Kevin isnt one of those close friends). She wants that our relationship is a private thing.

    Its just… That really bad taste, because he just did cheat with a person who was in a relationship. I do not trust him. And also will make him clear, that I am still in a relationship with her.


  • Yeah, I feel not completely sure in my relationship with her. But I am 6 years with her now.

    That being said is, because I will do and drop anything for her. I encourage and motivate her on an daily basis. Whereas she doesn’t seem to mention me by her colleagues and maybe Kevin.

    I met Kevin a long time ago, but I don’t know if he knows that she is in a relationship with me.

    She says, that she doesn’t mention me, because our relationship should be a private thing. And if people don’t know that you’re in an relationship, they are nicer to you. She says she won’t talk about me with colleagues to get an advantage of it in her career.

    We can continue with questions, if that helps to understand my situation. I would greatly appreciate it.