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  • Don’t drink much. It creates problems for your health in addition to social problems. Avoid it completely if you can.

    If it’s a guy, I’d tell them to be in shape and try some amount of looks maxing and to really put themselves out there. Even if they are not conventionally attractive, you can have some great experiences just being an assertive, kind dude.

    Of course, you don’t want to give this advice to someone who is a creeper or who has a lot of other things they need to work out, but it’s good advice to someone who isn’t suffering from bigger problems or has a fundamentally disordered relationship with women.




  • Yes. It’s not good.

    It’s not debilitating - I have a family and friends, and lead a very active social life, but I think I deem things “downtime” more than others and pull up the phone too often. I also find that I could be doing things that were productive when work isn’t busy, but instead I am just posting or reading.

    I guess I should keep closer track of my time as a potential solution.


  • I realized I had never seen if there was much in the way of a motive, so I went searching to see if one had been uncovered.

    I came across this:

    While a motive remains unclear, veteran forensic psychologist Dr Joni Johnston believes Kohberger - should he be found to be the culprit - may have been motivated to kill by deep-seated anger, resentment, and jealousy, based on her analysis of public reports.

    Speaking to The U.S. Sun, Dr Johnston explained: "My theory is that this is an attack motivated by rage and anger, and almost a need for revenge.

    “I don’t mean necessarily that there’s this kind of need for anger or revenge against these [victims] specifically … but it could be a murder-by-proxy thing.”

    Stopping short of suggesting the suspect may have been an incel - or an involuntary celibate - Johnston says the sole suspect may have harbored resentment toward his female victims in particular.

    “The victims he chose may symbolize what he doesn’t have and can’t get - and so he’s angry about that,” she said.

    “These are young, attractive girls living in a college town … in his mind, he needs to take power, take control, and get revenge on these individuals because of who and what they symbolize.”

    The Sun

    There is also this potential piece of evidence:

    Anow-deleted Instagram account that authorities believe belonged to Bryan Kohberger, the suspect in the University of Idaho murders, followed the three female victims of the attack, according to a report citing sources in the investigation.

    Investigators haven’t said if the victims knew the suspect, however People magazine has claimed he reached out one of the female victims repeatedly via Instagram messenger.

    Kohberger, a 28-year-old Ph.D. student in criminal justice and criminology at Washington State University, has been charged with four counts of first-degree murder and burglary in connection with the slayings of Madison Mogen, Kaylee Goncalves, Xana Kernodle and Ethan Chapin in the neighboring town of Moscow, Idaho.

    All four bodies were discovered in an off-campus residence the three women shared on November 13. Chapin had been sleeping over with his girlfriend, Kernodle.

    “He slid into one of the girls’ DMs several times, but she didn’t respond,” a source close to the investigation told the outlet. “Basically, it was just him saying, ‘Hey, how are you?’ But he did it again and again.”

    “These weren’t angry messages, these weren’t even sexual messages—these were just him saying ‘Hey’ and when she didn’t respond saying ‘Hey’ again and again and again,” Steve Helling, senior crime reporter at People, explained to NewsNation. “He never expressed any anger, you know, ‘why aren’t you responding to me?’ or ‘you stuck-up b-word’; that’s not what he was doing. He was just trying to make some sort of contact.”

    “There’s no indication that he was getting frustrated with her lack of response,” the source said. “But he was definitely persistent.”

    Newsweek






  • Thanks for the posts - I have read what you have written and am considering it all, and I feel like I am still forming some of my opinions on this. I am going to cover the issue again if I see anything pertinent…

    BTW I do tend to post articles from a variety of sources, and I very routinely get yelled at for postign “Russian propaganda” about the Ukraine war in spite of the fact that I have also posted things from transparently pro-Ukraine sources as well, and I will post crime stories that show Ministers, Priests, and Cops as the predators that they are when it is appropriate, but I also share relevant news about crime done by mirants - though this is the minority, I share crime stories of all types all the time…

    Point being… If I do end up sharing something you think is inflammatory and upsetting, it is because I treat this website & the Fediverse as a place for archiving information & generating discussion, right, so I am not hoping to attack trans people or anything.

    Nonetheless, bring the passion & fire to any future posts about this, lol, because it is enjoyable and you are well spoken.



  • Taekwondo and Kyukoshin karate have been thoroughly reformed martial arts for a while now and whatever lingering religious roots may exist in some practices have been completely expunged as far as I know…? Like, I would not be surprised if someone could bring up some old manual or origin behind a specific movement in a kata or a specific philosophy that is vaguely tied to an Eastern religious perspective, but I would also say that… This shouldn’t be problematic.

    The Catholic church even ruled that Confucian ancestral rites were OK as it was a ceremony to honor the dead more than some fixed religious thing…

    I do appreciate your concern, though…! And I do not want my answer to be the definitive one here… Just trying to help.


  • I think it is just an unavoidable fact that growing up with testosterone in your body fundamentally changes your skeletal structure and musculature, and that is why such an extreme minority in society is able to quickly begin dominating women’s sports and why you also have not heard any stories of transmen dominating men’s sports. It appears to also be the case that since biological men & women process testosterone differently, the baseline levels of testosterone that transwomen on HRT may still produce or receive (I am not sure how this works) will also be received differently.

    Some problems cannot be fixed, right: a transwoman now does not have the same level of testosterone as men, and that means the transwoman’s training is greatly impacted. The ability to generate new muscle in the training season will be less… Yet, they also have unfair advantages when competing against women.

    It is basically unfixable other than having transwoman specific categories or simply creating open leagues or leagues in which all participants accept these realities… This is not that problematic for non-contact sports, but can be deeply problematic if we are talking about women’s rugby or something.

    And… when it comes to competition at high levels, it is far more complicated simply because there is more emphasis on who is the fastest woman/man? Who is the strongest woman/man? Which nation has the best women’s basketball team…?, etc., and people prefer a more narrow definition of this.

    So, what can we do?

    Let me end it by saying…

    • Lesbians are probably over-represented in most women’s sports at the top levels (I have heard informal estimates of around a quarter of WNBA players being lesbians and this generally checks out)
    • Women who are unfairly subjected to body image issues are disproprotionately top tier athletes
    • Lesbians & women who experience discrimination and unfair characterization as overly masculine or ugly due to their size or musculature are statistically the greatest victims of transwomen in sport…

    This is not to say “Transwomen are villains!”

    This is to point out that a very vulnerable community is also negatively impacted by this…

    I can’t help but think of a few girls in my high school who were tall, athletic, and masculine. I can’t help but think of my aunt who was a jock… They have faced a lot of name calling and criticism, and have often felt inadequate for many men as women, as losers… Athletics was the one area they brought great credit on themselves, their schools, their families, their nations, even…

    Women athletes have often been rebels and nonconformists facing an uphill battle… There’s something special about that, which makes it more painful for people to see them displaced…

    This is not meant to say, “Oh, fuck you guys,” but rather to outline what I think is a real issue.

    I apologize for not responding earlier in the week - I have been busy


  • If you look at my posting history in the Sports section, you’ll see that I posted very frequently about the WNBA season because I do watch and follow the WNBA… I’ve been very excited about the fact that Caitlin Clark & Angel Reese are going to be such superstars advancing the game to the next level and making it highly marketable. I also closely followed Rhonda Rousey and Joanna Jedrzejczyk, but only recently am I coming back to MMA as something I actively follow and so I am not that familiar with the current women’s fighters (as I have also lost familiarity with all but the most standout men’s fighters that are unavoidably given more attention than women fighters).

    Women’s sports are great… And, just like lower tier soccer, college football, etc., athletes with less physicality than the superstar elites are playing a kind of different game with different possibilities, different limitations, different opportunities…

    It creates different strategies, different tactics, different approaches…

    Our local soccer leagues are nothing in comparison to the EPl or La Liga - our best players all get poached to go to leagues that are higher paying… But I still attended religiously when I had more free time, and was lucky to see them win two championships in person… The fact taht “This is not the EPL!” bothers some people, and they never show up or care about our local league, but this is a garbage attitude of garbage people…

    Which is also exactly why people who think that since women cannot compete with men in basketball their league is not worth paying attention to. It’s the attitude of people who do not love the sport for what it is…

    Real sports fans find themselves distracted and ready to stop and watch when they see schoolkids playing, just the sight of 10 year olds kicking around a ball is enough for them to want to see what happens… Because it is the sport itself that matters.

    Long rant, I know, but I dislike being accused of this…


  • Great post - I figured that this would be the case based off of the idea that, whether you are male or female, certain markers can only be passed on through father/mother…

    Your haplogroup, for instance, always comes from the father. It would seem to me, then, that things like haplogroups would only be linked to male genetics, and simply smushing together two men’s genetics would result in things like repeat haplogroups and a total lack of mtDNA.

    Perhaps, eventually, technology would exist that could translate the haplogroup of a female into the genetic code necessary for reproductive genetic combination, and likewise extract female-specific reproductive code from a male and do the same… But yeah, I imagine that would also just be the point of full genetic customization from top to bottom, and so the ability to do that would no longer be surprising but simply something that has come to us as a byproduct of advanced gene editing.