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Cake day: June 2nd, 2023

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  • I once saw heard a 4wD crash right on the neighbors’ solid brick wall, right across the street. The cops were chasing the car, which was stolen, and arrested the driver. My 16y/o chicken self got so scared with all the noise that I didn’t dare to peek through the window for a good ten minutes. When I finally did, I thought the hole in the wall looked surreal. The impact also damaged the garage door. I can’t even begin to imagine the insurance shitshow that must have been.




  • Not sure I’m following your point. If someone doesn’t give me a raise, doesn’t cut hours but I get my job simplified- what’s the problem with that? The only caveat I could see is if you have a job that you liked because of the challenge, and having it easier now equals it is unfulfilling. Similarly if you see an easier job as future reduced opportunities. But, if you just have a job to survive or that you are ambivalent about, I don’t see where the problem is.



  • Not sure if this applies to you but maybe you have heard a phrase about you that doesn’t make sense fully. In my case, it was “you’re intimidating” and that took me a long long time to understand because as a woman who has a lot of insecurities and can’t physically fight this is absolutely ridiculous. Then one day I was watching some relationship guru video clip and the guy said “if you’re told you’re intimidating and can’t make sense of it, it means you are hard to impress”. That clicked. At least, within dating contexts. I don’t know. I think most of the honest feedback I’ve gotten from potential dates, from boyfriends, from family members (though that required always a difficult argument beforehand and getting feedback was never the goal) and also from teachers who get fed up with your bullshit occasionally. It’s never going to come to you from a comfortable source, but you shouldn’t be asking your enemies either, because they’ll lie too.





  • Yes, I understand this and it is in my post as part of the question: is it just a showoff feature like peacock’s feathers? I also understand traits that don’t impact fitness won’t be selected against.

    But I have the nagging feeling that the body does spend a fair amount of extra resources creating long hair when it could make do with just a fraction. Use it or lose it is a popular trend in the animal kingdom. You can have a very showy coat using a lot less resources, if we’re talking about health markers only.

    But, fear not, there are theories that support long hair as having an actual practical function that impacts fitness, and people in the comments have posted some.

    What I like about these theories is that they aren’t mutually exclusive. You can have a variety of factors that mildly favor the same trait, it’s not always one single factor exerting clear pressure on things.