Not typically. You’ll see police along the major highways for speeders and the like but no state border patrol like that. Legally often transporting across state lines is a crime in and of itself but it’s one of those things where they look the other way unless they catch you using whatever item.

Often this is done for practical purposes, because if it’s legal in the state you started in, and might be legal in your final destination, they’d piss off more people that not of they stopped and confiscated from everyone.

It’s the salt mostly. Especially with indoor cats who often don’t get wet food and so are on the under hydrated side of things as they tend to not drink as much as they should.

Technically any without garlic or onion is safe for them to have a tiny bit as a treat but it’s so incredibly easy to overdo that it’s just safer to not give it to them.

Too much nitrates or nitrites is bad for cats yes, but they’d have to eat an excessive amount for it to be a concern and again the excess salt would be a bigger issue first.

That’s a version of decadence, and I got what you meant originally, but most speakers in the north (well, United States, Wales, and Toronto, Ontario as those are who I talk to most) think more of the excessive indulgence stemming from moral decline.

“Oh that chocolate was so decadent” meaning “I feel like I slipped into gluttony and sin eating it it was so good”.

It’s kind of used as a mix between the two definitions depending on the context. It’s so interesting how language changes from place to place.

I can (potentially) explain the double bagged paper. Growing up in the South that was the de-facto cooling rack, no wire racks or wax paper like you see today. They were cut open, laid on any flat surface, them cookies or cakes or what have you were laid on them to cool. They’d wick away moisture or grease and be easy clean up.

Free with groceries and if they were double bagged you had enough for a double batch of chocolate chip cookies while also usually guaranteeing (usually) the bag wouldn’t split from condensation or something before you got home.

They’re talking about bubble foam tea. Sure that was a thing but at least in any part of America I’ve been in, boba tea and bubble tea from the start was the tapioca pearl drink.

Some people get this purist notion that things can only ever be one thing and screech if someone uses a term differently.

The “bubbles” refers to the little edible tapioca balls at the bottom.

The name started as “bo ba”, the Chinese name for the tapioca pearls, and the west turned it into “bubble”. No idea what the original Chinese means, could just be bubble.

It’s often a sweeter milk tea (though pretty much anything goes these days)

“You know, I know this woman doesn’t exist. I know that when I hold her in my arms the Matrix is telling my brain that it is warm and soft. After nine years, you know what I realize? Ignorance is bliss” - Cypher

The Brazilian Nazis. Many of the ones who didn’t end up in Argentina ended up in Brazil with just as many stolen goods. (They say, I haven’t studied Nazi flight patterns)

I just posted a longer main comment but wanted to reiterate. There are definitely trash therapists. There are also great ones. Sometimes the great therapist isn’t specialized in the area you have problems.

I saw in your other post you think therapy doesn’t work for men. I’m a man. I spent about a year in therapy. I went from being a stressed out depressed weirdo to still weird but enjoying life. Both of my best friends, also men, are currently in therapy after my encouragement and have admitted it’s done wonders for them. I used to believe the exact same as you and felt how you’re describing until I burn out and spent two weeks in a psych ward. I also know several women who have gone through therapy and spoken highly about what they got from it and their therapist.

Studies have shown that up to 80% of people who go through modern psychotherapy treatment improve (modern being key).

From my experience, the big things that most people miss that causes therapy to fail is:

1. Finding the right therapist. I went through three before finding the one that worked for me. My wife went through I don’t know how many. My friend’s wife didn’t connect with the therapist that work for my wife and needed someone different. Yes there are people out there just greedy for a check. There’s also great people who truly care and want to see you succeed. I found checking their qualifications helped me narrow down quicker and find who worked for me. If they just have a single diploma or something from some unknown school, more likely they won’t work out (not guaranteed, just my experience). If however they’re properly trained in many different techniques like CBT, CPT, EMDR, and so on they’re more likely to be good and able to actually find what works for you.

2. Yes, some people fail therapy. It’s not guaranteed to work. Nothing is and if it was that would be suggested instead. If you haven’t tried it, try it. Can’t be worse than being miserable I’ve found.

3. Therapy still requires massive effort from you. A lot of the people I’ve seen who got nothing from therapy put in zero effort outside of it. They thought seeing a therapist was doing the work. A good therapist often will give you homework and techniques to practice and you actually have to follow through. For me, personally, the thing that I had to work on most but helped most was setting daily goals for myself to do something I wanted to do and not feel guilty about it. Again that was me, in my situation, may not be right for you but a good therapist will help you with things like that. And you need to actually commit to it.

4. You need to actually dig into what’s causing these feelings. Just finding techniques to ground you in the moment only works for so long. If you don’t address the root cause, it doesn’t go away. A lot of the people I’ve seen fail in therapy treat it more as a venting session where they just talk about things that annoy them. That’s wrong. Instead, dog into why it annoys you. A good therapist will go past “that made me sad” and help you find what the actual problem was. For me, I had been raised with very high expectations, but also nothing was ever good enough, while my brother could do no wrong. In my sessions I didn’t just vent about how I angry I was seeing coworkers get promoted, we dug into my personal expectations for myself and how I was failing to relate to others around me because I was judging them as if they were me. I had to dig into letting go of past expectations from my family I’d carried forward that had left me depressed and alone and am outsider, not just vent about being sad and alone.

5. Meds. A lot of people try therapy but skip even considering meds because of the stigma around them. Sometimes you just need that extra help. My best friend, one of the two mentioned earlier, spent his first month or three in therapy working on getting over that stigma and finally getting on the meds he needed. People will take chemotherapy if they have cancer, take Excedrin or whatever for a headache, but then think that just a little bit more self discipline or a magic calming technique will fix their brain instead of getting medicine for a lack of serotonin production. I’ve also seen it go the other way, they think the right antidepressant or mood stabilizer will cure them but refuse to go to therapy because “it won’t work, they’re not crazy”. Sometimes, you just need both.

6. Meds part 2. I’ve seen a lot of people skip meds and fail at therapy because they don’t want to be dependent on a pill for the rest of their life. They want to get better. Well sorry. Some people just need whatever medicine. Again. Diabetics take insulin, but antidepressants for life is often considered a nonstarter. You might not need them, that’s great, you might already be on some, nothing wrong there, but also nothing wrong with taking a pill the rest of your life if it makes it a good one.

7. They drop out early. This one almost got me twice. First I started feeling worse. On top of all the stuff in my life that made me feel terrible my therapist wanted to dig up painful memories? Yeah, didn’t feel great. Thankfully my therapist took a step back and we took a different approach at working through things. Still didn’t feel the best but I kept with it and trusted the process. The second way I almost dropped out early was after making a large amount of progress. I thought I was doing great. Thought I didn’t need a therapist any more. Mine actually strongly argued against me quitting and I wish I’d listened. I was not ready to fully strike out on my own and started falling back into old negative thought patterns. Thankfully I recognized them before it was too late and went back and finished the work.

I’m sure there’s more reasons it can fail, those are just what I’ve seen in my personal experience. It did wonders for me along with meds. I needed both. It’s doing wonders for my friends. I wish I could give you grounding techniques and some solid advice to help but it’s really situationally dependent. You say your happy memories are eating you alive, without knowing what they are, or why, or what’s feeding into your loneliness, then the techniques might be the wrong ones and do more harm than good, and again, that’s where a therapist can come in and help you safely find the right things.

Most of his music has been on repeat for me lately. Especially “Walmart”

I dunno, my friend from Brazil says the Brazilian ones are just as bad.

I don’t know about you, but my Pixel 6a already does this. When I go to install an APK not from the app store directly it warms me, requires me to acknowledge that the APK was downloaded through Firefox, and acknowledge what permissions it is requesting.

I apologize, I’m with you on do not attack random churches and should have called that out myself in my first post and can see how what I said could be interpreted as supporting it.

I was trying to point out that LGBTQ+ people are already under physical threat and have been and the first person’s point about waiting until they are getting shot to take further action was passed already. I think the real physical threat is not understood by many. I do not think the action should be burning down random churches.

That’s a good point for the future, but I meant on my Pixel 6a and I bought it directly through Google.

If anyone created a high powered paint sprayer that could do it from the ground, I’m sure various people would use it to deface things. Not me obviously, but others would

These crosswalks were painted specifically in honor of the Pulse massacre where 50 LGBT+ people were murdered in 2016. 25 were injured or killed in a shooting in a Colorado Springs gay bar in 2022.

The shooting has been happening for years already.

What’s that meme that was going around? Cities have enough police for one ten thousand person protest but ten one thousand person protests would cripple them? Take it a step futher with the crosswalks

That’s yet another trend that’s made me less and less interested in things. You’re not wrong though and will likely be my fall back

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