Mirroring is when you naturally match the other person’s behavior, imitating their gestures, speech patterns, and so on, but it’s not the same as copying someone. It usually happens when you’re comfortable with each other and often goes unnoticed by both of you. I believe it’s mostly a subconscious action.

It can have a romantic element to it, but you can also feel it with close friends. And mirroring alone doesn’t define chemistry, it’s more about the overall feeling, as I mentioned.

It’s clear that you made the right decision by sharing your feelings. You shouldn’t try to force anything. And don’t be too hard on yourself, this happens in many relationships. What you do afterwards is what matters.

When I was younger, I had platonic feelings for someone I dated, and I ended the relationship because of it. Eventually, I reconnected with her, and we became friends. I thought that having her in my life as a friend was exactly what I wanted since my love for her felt purely platonic. But I was wrong. Feelings can change and it’s easy to get them mixed up. She got married, and I went on to have a few relationships, but I always felt like something was missing. We stayed friends, and after she divorced, I confessed my feelings. We decided to try again and see where it goes. It’s now been almost a decade since we got back together and we are very much in love.

Every relationship takes effort to keep the spark alive. Feelings are complex and passion also fades. There are other aspects that are more important. In your case, I think you’re imposing this on yourself to avoid hurting or putting pressure on her. Referring to her as a sister might be your way of protecting her, perhaps from your own sexual desires. It seems like you turned off your sexual instincts out of respect and fear, which might have led to your relationship becoming platonic. Maybe your relationship could work if you’re both open with each other and work to break down the barriers you’ve put up out of fear, yours of pressuring her and hers of intimacy. Sometimes a break and a fresh start might rekindle the connection. After all, a strong friendship is the foundation of a healthy relationship, and it’s harder to build than attraction alone.

I just hope you don’t go through the same thing I did, because it’s terrible to be haunted by what if’s for years. At the same time, it’s not healthy to force something or someone. But love, in any form, is beautiful. It’s hard to find it and even harder to find a wonderful person to share it with, so don’t let that be wasted. Whether you stay friends after she heals, or you give it a second chance, I just hope you’ll be in each other’s lives cause you both seem to truly care.

It’s something you just feel, even if it’s hard to explain. Things naturally flow, and even silence isn’t awkward with the right person.

You can talk about anything, you’re in sync, you make eye contact, and sometimes you even mirror each other’s actions.

For me, it’s all about the feeling and the vibe, you just know. If you’ve spent enough time with someone, you’ll definitely sense if there’s chemistry there.

The way you present the situation, it seems that you are not willing to be just friends. And in that case, it’s better to keep some distance. You will most likely end up getting hurt.

Take some time for yourself, work through the depression and maybe even try to get to know someone else. Then you will be able to figure out how you feel about her and if there’s room for a real friendship, not one where deep down you long for more.

This is a really chaotic situation and your feelings are completely normal. But everything will sort itself out at some point. It’s painful right now, but you need to know that you haven’t done anything wrong. People can be lost and unsure of their feelings, but the way she did it’s really bad. It speaks volumes and it seems like she doesn’t care, so you should be glad you dodged a bullet.