I mean, it’s the community that keeps people around. The rules and dogma push people who aren’t being served well by the community out.

So in group this is natural to say. But external, directed at religious peoples, it’s not going to do the work of bringing them into your community. It’s not welcoming and it serves to push people to build walls rather than promote a change in thinking.

So i think you’re right in the context of being in community with a believer, but the comment wasn’t about that to begin with.

Alternatively, it’s hard to see how much religion is pushed until you’re outside of it. It’s like the opposite of getting a new (to you) car or phone. When you are, all of a sudden you realize how saturated everything is with it. It’s like living off the end of the runway of an international hub airport, there’s no rest.

Mu desperate need to continue using arch.

More or less but person didn’t have gender because that wasn’t relevant to the subject which was the rolling ball. Ball also bounced a few times when hitting the floor.

Also ticks.

This reads as ar anxious attachment and underdeveloped boundaries.

Your needs and wants are valid OP. You deserve autonomy in your own life.

Your friend, intentionally or not, seems to be manipulating you and taking advantage, and you seem to be enabling that.

You should discuss having a partner with them, and what that would look like. They should work with you to promote your needs and wants and fulfillment. That’s what friends do.

Please, i don’t want to be self aware of my accent in my first language.

Also the two pronunciations of “the” noted above are different mouth shapes. “Uh” un butt versus “ee” in jeep.

Thriller.

Let’s start with infrastructure.

Buses/metro/any public transit, barriered or not, sparsely or rarely exist. Even painted bike paths/walking paths, these usually exist ONLY in dense or older urban areas. You have either 1-1.5m wide sidewalk elevated 10cm or nothing separating you on foot from car traffic.

So that 250m is often on the shoulder of car lanes.

Now let’s talk property liability. You are responsible for injuries others sustain while on your property unless you have clearly posted signage expressing they were not allowed on your property. Even then and at best you’ll have to disrupt 6mo of your life tied up in courts+fees. (No right to roam. You do get the “perk” of open manhunting season on trespassers)

So that shortcut through the neighborhood where your neighbor laid out gravel because they care about community? Nope, that’s cyclone fence or cinder block wall. That alley between flats? Gated off.

It’s not even scale that’s the problem. You ALWAYS have to go around the ENTIRE block. A 250m Crow flight can easily be and most often is 1+km by foot, and only ever with a curb as your protection from traffic. You can’t safely get to geographically nearby places without putting yourself in mortal danger.

Also note European road design limits traffic in residential areas where the US grid system means every road is a main road and wide enough to promote excessive speeding.

Source: anecdotal/American living in EU

It’s not even opt-in wtf Gavin…

Actually the liquor is quite high quality, almost certainly better in general. My favorites are Irish and Scottish. But i don’t drink much liquor for safety reasons.

Norway has excellent pilsners and ciders. Ireland has a good brewery in dingle (i think) can’t remember name, was in Gaelic. The Finns have mastered the seltzer.

I think the micro brew culture in the US, PNW specifically, just beats the selection available in any one particular region i’ve visited in EU. I’m sure in aggregate EU has a larger selection. I mean, i haven’t been to Germany yet so…

But for example, it’s common to find only 1-2 smaller breweries on tap where I’ve been in EU, but in US it’s common to have several micro brews in any restaurant. Larger breweries are often mid anywhere you go in the world.

Not really a tourist but…

Netherlands, Ireland, and denmark on par for restaurants and bar pricing. Good sourcing is ubiquitously higher quality. Norway expensive restaurants and bars. In general US has better small/micro-breweries.

In EU, women don’t seem as wary of being alone in public or in the presence of masc presenting people. People seem to care less how others present themselves(they’re not offended by eccentric styles). I feel safer in general. America has a bunch of creeps who care that your shirt is pink or your hair is too long for a good Christian.

Healthcare exists. That’s $3k-$10k+ you don’t have to worry about every year.

Public transit exists. Like good public transit. The best systems in the US are garbage in comparison with the exception maybe of NYC. Though US public transit tends to be cheaper.

Can’t speak for Mediterranean or eastern Europe.

Had a former soviet physicist back in cc. Similar idea. He made fun of students for pronouncing Greek letters wrong. Talked about detecting submarines using capacitance. Great instructor, intense, but great.

Then there’s the high school history teacher who was a Vietnam vet. Slapped a kid for joking about his story calling in artillery/strikes on bs positions(he was tired of seeing mass murders of civilians). Never got in trouble for it. Kid spent a week in detention. Also a great teacher!

Fair. This one usually pertains to lower risk decisions tbh. Stuff like what to have for dinner or how to spend the day off. And specifically when you otherwise wouldn’t have a preference. But quite often doing nothing is the greater risk in high stakes situations too. In any case, better to have your ice cream even if it’s not your favorite flavor, than none at all. That is, as long as you’re actually going to eat it.

That’s ok.

If you don’t know what you want, make a choice instead of just waiting. If it’s not the right one, change your mind. It’s always ok to change your mind. Sitting in stasis means the ice cream shop closes before you ordered and now you don’t get any.

I started getting the odd server side injected ads. Refreshing the page usually works to skip it.

Oh i was just thinking like how rhododendrons droop their leaves in the winter,. If the avos could be doing a similar thing. But good to know!

Could it just be a bit cold?

I use a table in Obsidian. More manual but adds flexibility such as easy direct note taking, linking to videos of exercises, etc… I use syncthing to keep version control and sync between devices for stats on home pc. Also very private in terms on data(thigh not necessarily encryption).

If you’re concerned about not having enough of a masculine look just don’t skip arm and chest day. No muscle building is going to make you look feminine without changing the rest of your aesthetic (clothes, voice, hair, etc…).