A couple of weeks ago I pulled out without looking, this is the second time this has happened since I have started driving, a car flipped and ever since than all I get is bad news, nothing has been good. My friends are more distant, I considered sucide a couple of days ago and my friends stopped me. I recently found out I am getting sued on top of everything. I just feel like I deserve bad things and my existance will be pain for as long as I keep walking this earth. I work a souless retail job, and my friends are tired of hearing me complain cause it’s easier than their jobs.
Besides all the normal things one would tell you about having better mental health during times of stress/crisis, I’d offer what tends to work for me personally, as an aside/data-point, if nothing else.
When running away from the “monster”, don’t run in a straight line away from it, take 90 degree turns.
Try to change your scene, even if its just for hours at a time.
For example, go to the store, buy your favorite ice cream, then go to the beach/lake/park, and just sit, watching the waves/water/trees, listening to life, and eat some of that favorite ice cream.
Do a reset on your brain. Remember that Life is not just what you described in your post.
Then relook at your situation. Remember other situations in the past when you had difficulty/crisis, but then you made it through that. Remind yourself that bad situations that you are in can change, and become better ones.
More long term, if some things are constantly sorrowful for you, try to change them, even if its hard to do. Find that different job, meet new people, etc.
Also, try not to reach out to your friends 24/7, as you’ll burn them out, and they’ll be more distant from you (that’s just human nature). Its a ‘boy who cries wolf’ scenario to them, but to you the ‘wolf’ is real. You can’t wait and constantly ask to be rescued by others (as how they would perceive it), sometimes you have to bootstrap it yourself, which starts with seeking help, either self, or professional.
Take care, and he’s hoping for you for a brighter future. /hug
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