• breakingcups@lemmy.world
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        It implies that that’s a quality you should be judging people on, even if their looks have no bearing on the situation.

        Of all the things or even subjects you could have made a comment on in this thread, you left one on the looks of a woman.

        She doesn’t need your validation. Other Lemmy users don’t need your opinion on who’s attractive. It’s meaningless and detracts from the conversation.

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        It is not a problem in many contexts. For instance complementing people in social non-work gatherings. “Wow, you look great in that suit”, or “You are even prettier than I remember”. Or when talking about someones ability to attract attention.

        However in the context of an important message from a person, it derails the conversation and kinda just objectifies a person. As if it is more important than what they are saying or contributing.

        It basically boils down to this: Do you want to be remembered for being good looking or your contributions to this world? How does it feel to be unsure if you got the job, because of looks? Or if people are listening because of your looks?

        I am glad you asked, and I already saw someone gave a great explanation, but wanted to pitch in as well 😊

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          I would agree if i was directly talking to the person i was referring to. I would not brought looks up in that context for all the reasons you listed as its disrespectful.

          Am i offtopic, very much. But thats what the downvote button is for. This was meant as lighthearted comment. Not about disregarding her statements.

          regardless, thank you for your reply as i def can see it but it feels massive overblown.

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            Yup, it’s overblown. Just wanted to give an explanation, you never know what level of awareness other strangers have online. Wish you the best, and see you around!