(tbh I think this applies unless and until people marry, for those seeking marriage)

I guess the question would be more what is it to not be a monk?

“sleeping around with randoms”

literally a waste of energy and dangerous

“paying prostitutes”

literally a waste of money

“looking at indecent media”

literally a waste of time

sounds like monk is safer and wastes less energy, money, and time

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    9 months ago

    You still have urges and being with a woman is very fulfilling. I don’t really believe in the “no sex before marriage” thing, you gain valuable experience that will help you a lot once you’re ready to settle down with someone.

    I’m a way better person to be with now than I was during my first relationships. I’m older and that’s part of it, but I also understand women a lot better than I did back then (to the extent that it’s possible for a man to understand a woman lol). You also discover more about yourself and the things you actually enjoy or value in someone.

    I think you can still find good women to be in a relationship with, without playing the Tinder game or buying into this transactional bullshit. My advice is to not shut yourself off from them, who knows, one of them may be the person you spend the rest of your life with.