Come to peace with the fact that your dad is an adult separate from his role as your dad. He might even drink or partake of the devils lettuce. He has dreams and aspirations separate from his responsibility to your family.

Anybody got any, like, advice?

Quit nosing around on your dad’s computer?

Your parents are sexual beings like everyone else.

Just rearrange your life so you never have a quiet moment of reflection ever again.

Get a shitty old car with no muffler. Break the windows and replace them with plastic. Turn on NPR at max volume and then never touch the dial again. Buy a pack of cigarettes and a lighter. Light one of the cigarettes and suck the smoke into your lungs. Repeat this until the cigarette’s burned away, the repeat that 20 times, then repeat that every day. Get in a feud with your neighbor and make sure it devolves into night time disco ball laser pointer milkdrop light show visualization battles one one another’s ceilings. If you don’t already live in an apartment with shitty blinds incapable of blocking line of sight to the outside, move to one immediately. Take your feuding neighbor with you.

Some people eventually realize that their parents are also people, not gods.

Anybody got any, like, advice?

Be happy you didn’t find 250 home burnt DVDs of porn in the attic.

An example of why the phrase “Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to” has wisdom.

I was going through router logs (was not looking for anything, just exploring all the things in the router’s web interface) and I found all of my son’s porn search queries from his 3ds.

It’s MILF porn and I can’t help but find that a little adorable.

Thinking about it made you feel uncomfortable. Stop thinking about it. Get on with your life as if it didn’t happen.

You just have to deal with it.

How would you have reacted to if the roles were reverse here (he snooped and found your porn if you had it)?

Not trying to sound prosecutorial, its simply helpful to start with your own feelings about your privacy and autonomy as an exercise here

Heh. Used my brothers browser. Started typing in the search bar. Got a list of urls I’d rather not mention. Just went downstairs and asked him to clear his history and switch off recommendations before powering down.

Whenever you’re out and about with your dad, and you see attractive women, point them out and make “innocent” comments about how attractive she is, and ask your dad’s opinion on them. Maybe drop a “MILF” (without saying “MILF”) in the conversation once in a while.

[you noticing a mom with her kid(s)]

You: Hey dad, she’s pretty hot, no?

Dad: [grumbles] yeah sure. I guess.

You: Not hard to believe she’s a mom.

[blank stare him for a few seconds before quickly changing the subject]

You could also sneeze once in a while, asking him if he has any tissues you could use. If he says no, you could respond, “surely you have tissues somewhere, no?” Blank stare him for a few seconds before changing the subject. Same thing with asking for any hand moisturizer.

But don’t come right out and say anything to him about it. You want him to sit uncomfortably with this nagging doubt that maybe you know, but maybe you don’t.

Edit: damn. Y’all ain’t got no sense of humor over here @lemm.ee. I’m a dad, and if my kid did this to me, I’d find it hilarious. Lighten up a little. Life is too short, and there are very few things to laugh about. This should not be one of them.

You could monitor each other’s porn use like the US Speaker of the House and his son. 🤢🤮