Toxic masculinity is such a broad term that you’ve touched on quite a bit. I, too, grew up with this idea that men aren’t allowed to cry, or really feel any emotion outside of rage. My last marriage broke up because any time I tried to express my emotions my wife would shut down and simply not be able to handle it. We are still friends, but she is the last person I would ever try to find comfort for. My nesting partner is a dream in that respect though.