• Lokiya@lemmy.world
    5·
    4 months ago

    I was first called a dyke then bull dyke in elementary school. I had no idea what it meant and the boy who was calling me that was hitting my head from his seat on the bus behind me. So I grabbed his backpack and and flipped him over the seat.

    All the gay slurs were the most common to use against me. Though I did get called a n- lover a few times as well.

    When I was younger I fought back physically and/ or verbally. As I got older I would just question the person on why what they were calling me was a bad thing.

    Though I do think my favorite come back for any of the gay slurs when thrown by afab people would be saying: “yeah and trust me, it will never be an issue for you.” While giving them the up and down with a disgusted expression. Seeing the confusion then anger then confusion go across their faces was always amazing. They couldn’t argue with it other wise they would be saying they wanted to be seen as attractive by someone of the same sex.

    • norimee@lemmy.world
      3·
      4 months ago

      All the examples you told, say absolutely nothing about you but tons of things about the other person.

      They are basically shouting “LOOK AT ME, I’M A HATEFUL BIGOT!!”
      Thats way worse then anything they could call you.

      • Duamerthrax@lemmy.world
        1·
        4 months ago

        That’s pretty advice, but doesn’t help much when you’re a kid who’s getting chronicly bullied while the adults look on.

        • norimee@lemmy.world
          1·
          4 months ago

          I didn’t say this would help nor did I give any advice. I just stated my opinion about bigoted bullies.

  • Death_Equity@lemmy.world
    4·
    4 months ago

    I am pretty hard to offend because I know they are trying to offend me and I know they are made of easily mechanically separated meat.

  • DrPop@lemmy.world
    4·
    4 months ago

    I got called a white N-word by an African man because I was doing my job. I hung up on his ass after I realized what he was saying.

  • Caboose12000@lemmy.world
    3·
    4 months ago

    When I was a kid I had a friend who’d call me the R slur pretty frequently. Besides ADHD Im basically nurotypjcal, he just meant to say I was being stupid. I kind of internalized it at the time and it gave me some self confidence issues about my intelligence, but I think that would’ve happened even if he wasn’t using a slur.

  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
    3·
    4 months ago

    Where do we draw the line for slur?

    I’m sure we can all agree that one word that starts with N would count, but what about doo-doo-head, dumbass, or fatso?

    • Don_Dickle@lemmy.worldOP
      2·
      4 months ago

      As a student of history I could mention a couple besides the N word that probably no one uses today. But I don’t want to get banned.

  • shalafi@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    4 months ago

    “Are you saying you expect us to warranty the engine and a 10-yo car with 140,000 miles, that you bought used? Because that ain’t gonna happen.”

    “Ooohh! You a smart ass little cracker ain’t ya!” And hung up.

    Had to grab a black coworker and ask what a cracker was.

    • Lvxferre@mander.xyz
      1·
      4 months ago

      If you respond in anyway, they achieve their purpose of being annoying.

      I think that this is a good rule-of-thumb, but following it 100% of the time would be unwise. Sometimes you actually get a more desirable outcome by calling the person out, and gathering support against them.

  • archonet@lemy.lol
    1·
    3 months ago

    Had someone repeatedly call me a faggot, shouting it at me; after I told them staying 5 hours past check-out, for free, isn’t a thing. He also threatened to break my nose.

    I’m 6’4 and over 300lbs (and, indeed, gay), and I shit you not this man was a full head shorter than me and skinny like a twig. I couldn’t stop smiling as he made these threats and insults, and just waited for him to try coming over or around the desk (I had pepper spray and a big-ass maglite with me to boot, it was a hotel near a casino that still had smoking rooms and was frequented by drug addicts and hookers, and I was the overnight guy). He never did, and when the cops showed up he tried playing dumb and innocent. The cops didn’t buy it, especially since a co-worker had seen the entire thing and told them the same, and escorted him from the premises before check-out.

    And the whole reason dipshit didn’t want to check out on time? He wanted to go to college classes first and leave all his shit in the room (which, by the way, they trashed). Not how it works, housekeeping needs to clean it, either pack up or pay up. And instead, he wound up missing his classes and checking out on time! The stupidity of the common hotel guest never ceases to amaze me – I have frequently joked that people remember to pack their toothbrush, spare underwear, and they might even remember to shut off the kitchen stove, but they almost always leave their brain by the door before heading out.