• PraiseTheSoup@lemm.ee
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    27 days ago

    That’s a tough one. I’d have to say April 25th, because it’s not too hot, and not too cold. All you need is a light jacket.

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      27 days ago

      That’s how my boyfriend and I had our first date. He tried to plan a date a few times but I was busy/flaky. One day he messaged me saying he was nearby at a bar with some friends and asked if I wanted to stop by for a drink. And here we are a year later.

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    27 days ago

    Definitely not a movie night, you don’t get much of a chance to really know the other person from that, and if either one of you decides that the other is crazy it makes it a little harder to dip out.

    Ideally something simple that’s good for getting to know the other person while being able to leave at any time. Coffee, shaved ice, frozen yogurt, etc. Then a walk through a park or along a beach, or just sit down/people watch, and discuss your interests to see if either of you are interested in a second date.

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    I liked inviting people for a walk around Oakland Lake Merritt. Takes about an hour and the scenery is constantly changing, creating opportunities for conversation.

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      27 days ago

      Really? I’d consider a movie like 2nd or 3rd date material, but I guess if you’re having an event after it would make sense.

      • throwaways_are_for_cowards@lemmy.world
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        It may help that I’ve never really “cold” dated. Every “first date” I’ve ever been on was with someone whom I was already at least decently friendly, so usually it’s more like I found a movie or event or whatever that we were both interested in. It had not occurred to me that sitting in a dark theater with someone you weren’t terribly familiar with could be something that needed vetting, but upon reflection I can see where that may cause problems. My naive ass just likes movies.

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    Tbh. just breaking the ice quickly and having fun afterwards, and getting to know the person in the process

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    27 days ago
    • someone clog the toilet
    • someone fix the toilet
    • see if you can decide what to have for dinner
    • someone do the dishes
    • see if you can decide what to watch on tv

    if you can make it through all of that and still want to spend time together, it might work out