• peopleproblems@lemmy.world
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    Woah, hold on. There’s something here.

    It’s a business transaction, sure. But the social interaction, while to us seems like sarcastic exaggerating, is humorous complimenting. In order to do that, it has to be language you can use frequently and honestly.

    This is doing wonders for his mental health, likely because part of his thoughts are “what could I say to make ME feel more complimented than that.” He’s actively using positive self talk unconsciously.

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      And he gave the dude a present only to take a picture and put it on the Internet

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        There it is, the negative sarcastic tone I’m used to on the internet. I got a weird warm feeling reading all that stuff in front of your comment. Thank you for putting me down to reality again. Well done, sir.

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          What sarcasm? That was a straight forward statement. Where I’m from that’s a pretty rude thing to do.

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            Eh, I can understand your outlook when it’s something done specifically to post it to the internet, like when people film themselves giving money to the homeless, but the guy pretty clearly looks happy to have his pistachios; I’d imagine the story is real, and this guy just wanted to share it, even if there was a less altruistic undertone of getting positive attention online.

            And at the end of the day, there’s a net good to doing things like giving people gifts and giving homeless people some money to help them out, even if done entirely for the sake of internet popularity. I like to focus more on whether the person being helped is thankful for it, and if they are, I just focus on that rather than the guy trying to make himself look good for doing it.

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        BossDJ, I want to make sure you’re ok. This cynical outlook isn’t like you. Please act like the usual positive MC I know you are.

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        Or he took a picture to remember the moment. Like people do since before the Internet.

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      It is (almost) everywhere and anywhere you choose to reach across and make it happen friend. Try it out and see, I bet you will not be disappointed!

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    The aggressive compliments are one of the things I’ve always appreciated about middle eastern cultures. Does it feel silly if you aren’t used to it? Of course. But it’s just nice to be around and enjoyable to reciprocate

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    During one of the lowest ebbs in my life, I subconsciously and unknowingly sustained myself simply by buying one extra dessert (ice cream, chocolate, something sweet and inocuous) for the doormen at my building. This small act of human bonding would give me enough energy to face tomorrow without dreading it, and little by little I was able to dig myself out of a deep hole.

    The point of this parable is, do not underestimate the value of human connection! A very small act may turn someone’s day around and that energy is reflected back to you in droves.

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    I love this, my quick stop guy smiles whenever I walk in, but he doesn’t speak much English. I’d love to get him pistachios