I get where you’re coming from, and I think it’s a good shower thought.
I don’t, however, agree with it.
What’s missing is that parents aren’t always the first argument, and that disagreements don’t inherently result in anger.
Where it does make a basic kind of sense is that we do learn our coping mechanisms petty early on by observation. If we’re surrounded by people that argue regularly, and do so heatedly, that’s the structure we absorb as being the default. If you’re among people that disagree without arguing, then you pick up a different default.
It’s the same as any social interaction rules, we pick them up over time. But the emotion of anger isn’t inherent to disagreements. Not even for little kids.
I’ve been probably been too immersed into online “debate” culture. After a while though you start to reconginize it. When people get heated. You’re like, oh yeah, that’s what my brother would do when dad shut him down.
I get where you’re coming from, and I think it’s a good shower thought.
I don’t, however, agree with it.
What’s missing is that parents aren’t always the first argument, and that disagreements don’t inherently result in anger.
Where it does make a basic kind of sense is that we do learn our coping mechanisms petty early on by observation. If we’re surrounded by people that argue regularly, and do so heatedly, that’s the structure we absorb as being the default. If you’re among people that disagree without arguing, then you pick up a different default.
It’s the same as any social interaction rules, we pick them up over time. But the emotion of anger isn’t inherent to disagreements. Not even for little kids.
I’ve been probably been too immersed into online “debate” culture. After a while though you start to reconginize it. When people get heated. You’re like, oh yeah, that’s what my brother would do when dad shut him down.