Regarding UI/UX, that’s definitely a major issue. UI will improve, but the nature of instances/federation will always be stumbling block. The only thing I can think of is recommending people join lemmy.world (because lemm.ee doesn’t block hexbear/lemmygrad by default, lemmy.cafe could also be an option if it gets bigger more/mature). There is also a need for on-boarding and something akin to starter packs with active communities). Lemmy community search return a community with most subs, but that’s not always the one that’s most active.

The presence of tankies is a major turn off for me personally. Even if you block hexbear/lemmygrad, you still get ML users and even lemmy.world users who spout things like “the USSR’s invasion of Europe in collaboration with nazi Germany was a good thing!” Major instances really need to adopt a “no tankie” rule and some of the active software communities need to migrate off ML.

Many admins are unprofessional. I personally got into a debate with a (US-based?) admin of major instance that started with him calling posters in that thread “shit eating lemmings who don’t understand anything” for being skeptical of the US judicial system. I am not from the US, but I have lived there. I made a snarky remark (while clearly stating that I am from a different country) referencing some of my own experiences living in the US. We got into a debate, I did not find his arguments convincing. We were going in circles I asked him what exactly does he want me to admit or say. He replied that I need that “I am stupid, I am wrong and that he is right”. I told him to fuck off and that he is a shit eating lemming. This not how an admin should act (even if he thinks I am wrong/ignorant).

I’ve also seen examples of admins of major instances being unprofessional and tolerating and encouraging mods acting in a very biased manner.

I can see how the capitalism stuff can be off-putting for many people. Personally I don’t see it that often (more than on reddit of course). I would say there are certain advantages to this tendency as well. I moderate a technology hardware community. I really like how people appreciate technology, but still take a critical look at all tech companies. Even the Apple community on lemmy is level-headed. Reddit is rife with corporate shills doing volunteer PR work. Any criticism of Apple (even legitimate like saying they cannot be trusted because they censored content critical of China and AI on Apple+) gets instant downvotes (not even on the Apple subs).

The issue that I see is that people don’t distinguish between “big C Capitalism” - American-style PR-focused oligarchy, corruption and criminality and “small c capitalism” - commerce, trade, competition. “Small c capitalism” has existed for thousands of years and will continue to exist after american-style corruption runs its course.

All people need to do is replace the word “capitalism” with “oligarchy”; I think this would go a long way to making their discourse more acceptable to least some percentage of the wider community of social media users (not all, or even most). Easier said than done of course.

I do agree there are massive problems with the Threadiverse/Fediverse. Some of them, like the lack of professionalism, software immaturity, lack of growth/on-boarding strategy can only be addressed with a serious budget. Others (like the abrasive, counterproductive, anti-capitalist sentiment) are arguably out of scope for a mere social network/forum.

That being said, what other alternatives are there? Threads/Zuckerberg is no go. He is downright evil; just another tech oligarch. I wish BlueSky all the best, but I do think they will eventually speedrun into a Twitter/X. I hope I am wrong. So even with all of the Fediverse’s problems, what is a viable next step if you don’t want to deal with FB/Reddit/Twitter and are skeptical about the long-term viability of BlueSky as a user-focused platform?