I try to be mindful of my Lemmy image/persona since I try to be supportive and educational here. I don’t have a problem with sharing my personal beliefs, but I try to keep it constructive and not too judgemental.
I’ve spent a lot of time cultivating the community where I spend most of my time posting content to, and I like all the comments people share on a daily basis because it’s a positivity oriented community.
Between things in real life and fighting feelings of burn out here, it’s been a bit tougher to stay motivated. One thing I’ve been noticing more lately, and I’m not sure how to deal with it, and I’m curious how you all deal with it.
If you have regular commenters that you like in your community, but you see them being kinda shitty in other communities, does that affect you?
I know there are stressful things going on just about everywhere, but it’s tough when I see people I look to for positivity in return for my work having bad takes or saying things that make me feel less happy about them.
The broadest recent example is probably the Luigi/United Healthcare assassination. Without getting into a whole thing, I don’t support it the way many have expressed here, but I can empathize with the reasoning behind why Luigi has broad support. But I see people I like saying what I feel are pretty hateful things, and I’m having a hard time separating what they show me of themselves in our positive space with what I’m seeing of them in the general Lemmyverse.
I don’t know if I should just ignore it, but I don’t feel there Is really any ideal way to discuss too much as I don’t want to alienate people from my content. I don’t use any alta as that just seems like too much work, but now I kind of want to avoid people a little bit.
Just curious if any of you go through anything similar and to see how you deal with it.
Only option is to ignore and stick to your community/instance rules and overall vibe.
I occasionally have known tankies comment in one of the communities I am modding. I just don’t engage.
And being Ukrainian I have a good reason to be very negative towards tankies.
For what it’s worth, I find it helps to contextualise things for yourself. At the end of the day, it’s not that big of a deal.
Good point about contextualizing. People are allowed to let off steam sometimes, and with only text to go by, people could be serious, but they could also just be working through frustrations.
We all have our share of bad takes, and I should only put so much weight into random things some relative strangers say. I delete a lot of posts before sharing because I decide I’m either edging into things I may not understand as much as I think, or that what I’m about to say may have me come off as confrontational. Different people just have different concepts of self control.
I think one way to think about it is your positively is shared at least in your space even with people who you feel aren’t good all around. People are complex and different environments bring out different aspects of them
This is very true. The majority of what I share can be appreciated at surface level, but the people that actually interact and participate I like to think are there to be open minded and to learn new things.
If I’m looking to teach people things, the audience will be coming from all different backgrounds and opinions, but my primary goal is to show them new things and to get them to think more critically about them. Even if I’m not in agreement with them on things at times, they are still taking time to show an interest in what I’m talking to them about. They deserve to be free to say what they want, but there’s no more obligation for me to have to agree with it than there is to listen to everything I have to say.
I try my best to be a positive voice but I’m also tend to by cynical on many topic. If you catch me be rude or negative in a non-constructive way, do not hesitate to talk me out of it. It easier to be better as a group!
I’ve only ever seen you be très chouette! You do a lot of great community building and watching you do your thing still makes me happy!
A take it as a big compliment (^_^) Thanks. But I’m not doing half of what you and so many other people are doing…
I feel you’re always trying and promoting new things, and you’ve supported the things I’ve tried to do for a long time. Whenever I see your name show up, I know it’s going to be something positive.
You do a good bit more than maybe people and you and the other people that regularly interact with my content keep me doing what I do.
I’m glad to hear it. Keep the good work yourself. You’re the kind of superuser Lemmy needs to grow to something meaningfull.
I’m always glad to see you all get enjoyment out of it. I’m glad I found a place where I can contribute something positive.
If you have regular commenters that you like in your community, but you see them being kinda shitty in other communities, does that affect you?
It’s only an opportunity to remember that we’re people, with many flaws. And that’s true for every single one of us. No exception.
I don’t know if I should just ignore it, but I don’t feel there Is really any ideal way to discuss
My approach is that if a message is not addressed to me and if I have nothing nice to say (or if I feel like being judgmental, like you said), I’d rather say nothing. And if the message is addressed to me, well, it’s more or less the same: if I have nothing positive to say, I will not reply and ignore it. If the person insists a little, I will say ‘sure, thx for sharing your opinion’. If they insist more, I will block them.
as I don’t want to alienate people from my content.
I don’t worry about people disagreeing with me. In fact, I quite appreciate diverging opinions as they can be opportunities to learn new things and to revise my own certainties. But I also don’t care at all about alienating anyone that I would consider a pain because I don’t think there is much (new) to learn from that kind of pain.
Quietly moving along has been the approach I’ve been doing. I try to keep in mind that I only really interact with them in a very brief sense every now and then, so I’m only getting the tiniest sliver of who they are when they interact with my posts. They’re their own people with their own thoughts, and since there’s no face-to-face interaction, I think I just project a bit too much personality on them sometimes.
I don’t think I’ve ever responded to any of them, because I enjoy the interactions they have with me that do pertain to me and what I am interested in sharing, That is a success that I have at that point, and the likeliness that I will change someone’s opinions on politics or whatnot isn’t very high, so it’s not worth it.
With some I’ve interacted with on a daily basis though, I guess I just wish they would always be smart and funny like they are in my space, which is almost purely positive, all the time. It’s unfair to expect them to be happy and rational though when they’re in a thread talking about things that make them mad though, It bothers me to see them get upset, even if we’re not friends in a traditional sense, I feel I’ve gotten to see them as good and happy people and I don’t like something making them be angry/upset/sad/etc.
I’m fine with people disagreeing with what I say though. I try not to throw around too much opinion and generally will have sources for things I share, so if they turn out to be wrong, I really do wish to know about it so I can be properly informed. I like to learn in general, so it’s important to be able to vet the facts I’m finding.
I often want go simply reply “dumb fuck!!” without explaining myself, but I make a conscious effort to save the post and reply in a more constructive way since this isn’t Twitter or whatever.
Though, wouldn’t it be really funny if you opened up a painfully stupid post and the only comment read “dumb fuck!!”
There are definitely threads I’ve seen where that would have been the only necessary response! 😂
I tend to just block those people.
