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  • People often push the idea that there are many who regret gender surgery, but in a 2023 article in jama surgery its shown there is good evidence that less that 1% of people who have gender affirming surgery express regret.

    Meanwhile, firearms are the number one cause of children and teen deaths in America, but conservatives don’t care about that, it’s all about the less than one percent of the population that seek gender affirming care, and of that tiny group, and estimated less than 1 percent express regret.

    If the well being and safety of children in america was a real priority, there’d be much more discourse around here about gun safety than trans people.





  • Well it’s literally impossible (without being evil) to argue against the moral principal that killing babies is bad. That’s because killing babies is bad.

    So according to this new baby accounting morality, the hamas attack on Israel killed only 37 children, 2 of which were babies. So that’s good. But according to oxfam, more than 11,000 children were killed by Israeli military in the last year, that’s bad. Of course many women were killed also, likely some pregnant ones, that’s bad.

    According to UNICEF, 2000 children have been killed in Ukraine, that’s bad. I can’t find any record or report of Ukraininan military killing any Russian children, so that’s good.

    So I’d like to see as much effort put into reducing the deaths of Palestinian babies and Ukrainian babies instead of encouraging those baby murdering israelis and baby murdering ruzzians.

    Edit: Oh, nobody agrees with me? Huh. Maybe it never was about the babies, but about control, subjugation and punishment.

    Edit 2: Ah so someone does agree with me. It’s pretty clear, from a strictly anti-child-killing standpoint who the good guys and bad guys are: hamas and Ukraine are the good guys, Israel and ruzzia are the bad guys.

    Interestingly, abortion has been legal in Israel since 1977, but but under Palestinian law, abortion is illegal. So why support the baby killers and supply bombs to be dropped on the baby protectors?



  • I explained it better in my other comment. In the case of Neighbor Lady, I like her and want to maintain a connection with her, even if I don’t have any real intrest in her quilting obsession.

    For other people I don’t already know and have a relationship with, it is the practice of developing good affinity with others that is important. The way we treat others is a reflection of the relationship we have with our self. Doesn’t it make sense to be kind and open to my own self? I think it does. It follows for me that I should also be kind and open with others. They are not just objects that move around and do things in my environment. My “self” and other “selves” are all fingers of the same hand, to make a funny metaphor. That’s the other reason.


  • Yes, I get that, but it seems like for some people, possibly OP included, the socially acceptable thing to do is just an empty ritual, without meaning or purpose. That’s difficult for me to grasp, because it’s not meaningless empty ritual.

    And also it’s the either/or aspect of it that I don’t like. When my Neighbor Lady starts talking to me about quilting, I really have no interest in quilting, but Neighbor Lady is important to me, I like her and I want to maintain a relationship with her. I don’t feign intrest in quilting, but because I care about Neighbor Lady i do want to hear what she has to say. So it’s not a binary thing like deep fascination with quilting / just being polite but not actually giving a shit.

    I suppose I could have used less words to express that in my first post.


  • The framing of this question is interesting. “…or are you just being nice?” Seems to assume that being nice is not a legitimate or authentic way of being, maybe unless it is a means of getting something you want.

    A psychiatrist once told me “If I’ve learned anything over the years, it’s that people really do think differently from each other.” I can accept this as true but it really boggles my mind sometimes when I think I have caught a glimpse of someone’s fundamental assumptions that are so different from mine.

    I have met a few people who have said things like “I don’t have time for small talk or chitchat, it is meaningless noise to me.” I thought to myself “OK, you’re not getting invited to my bar-b-que then.” Which was probably fine with them. Still, it’s hard for me to imagine having that mindset. Maybe when I was a teen it might have been said of me that I was self-absorbed and didn’t care about anyone else, but I certainly did care, more than I was able to express.

    I occasionally encounter people -some way past their teen years- who have no interest in any of the things that I am into, but want to endlessly info-dump to me about My Little Pony or whatever their special interest is. I listen, not because I am particularly interested in My Little Pony, and not because I am “just being nice.” There is another reason, and I don’t think of it as transactional or “playing a social game.”

    If there is any point to my rambling it is that I find the either/or thinking of the question reductionist and over simplified. I think this is one of the aspects of autism that makes it a disorder or disability for some people, because the very rigid black and white thinking can create a lot of frustration when reality doesn’t conform to their internal strict rules.




  • In 2004, Arizona passed a law requiring voters to provide proof of citizenship to vote

    Prop 200, the 2004 Arizona law that started all this trouble, was pushed hard by republicans and in particular promoted by the Federation for American Immigration Reform.

    The Federation for American Immigration Reform (FAIR) is a nonprofit, anti-immigration organizationThe Federation for American Immigration Reform (FAIR) is a nonprofit, anti-immigration organization in the United States. The Southern Poverty Law Center classifies FAIR as a HATE GROUP with ties to WHITE SUPREMACIST groups. FAIR was founded in 1979 by Michigan surgeon and white nationalist John Tanton.[13][14][15] https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Federation_for_American_Immigration_Reform

    So the strange story here is that republicans and white nationalists, in an effort to stop nonwhite people from voting, created this situation in which a large number of white republicans are in fact ineligible to vote, and have been voting illegally for years.

    Now that democrats have discovered this issue, white nationalist republicans are trying to blame democrats for the problem that white nationalist republicans created.