Most, if not all Ghibli women and girls are awesome IMO. And Nausicaa just might be the most badass. Maybe next to Mononoke.

Tooth issues are the absolute worst and I’d only wish tooth pain on the worst of my enemies. Just one of the areas I’ve wrecked my life personally. Even now I still haven’t developed the clockwork habit of looking after them and have to stay consciously on top of it. I’ve been working hard on it but I’m still paying for my past in that regard. And just on the subject, what I get for that movie ticket price is fillings and extractions and that’s it. For anything else, like root canals, you have to go private. Although $6000 is just sadistic (so is $500 for an extraction actually) and I’m sorry that you have to deal with that. I would definitely be considering Mexico in your position.

nobody seems to notice and everyone just walks around like nothings wrong

I don’t use this expression a lot but so much this. It’s like everyone has just accepted that things are shit and so they’re going to wallow in shit and that’s fine. This reminds me of another story that’s probably going to be at least another paragraph, so if you check out of reading now, I don’t mind.

When I was in boarding school, at one point the staff punished the entire hostel for something that someone had done but not owned up to. I don’t know what was in the water that day but people were pissed to the point that a protest broke out. Marching around and going where we weren’t supposed to be, singing protest songs. I was in my element. I still remember our over religious, hypocritical asshole hostel master peering out from behind his curtain with a scared look on his face, it was lovely. Then the bell rang for homework time and the protest immediately stopped then and there and everyone went inside to do their homework. I can’t remember if the punishment was lifted but I doubt it.

And I think that moment left a lasting impression on me as far as my opinion of people in general goes.

Nah lol, not accusing you of anything. I just thought I’d go and take a look and see if I’d been duped by a photoshopped post but there it is, right at the top. Just below his description of “Professional Neckbeard” and pinned address where all the marks that support him can send him free stuff.

It’s literally the first unpinned post on his Twitter profile.

They have a browser but from what I gather, it’s just Chrome / Firefox fork no. 35,683 with a custom skin and a few add-ons pre-installed.

Here’s the most recent take of his that I’ve seen:

But he’s definitely a repeat offender in these circles.

I feel like in this case, it’s more than that. They’ve weaponized social media and successfully used that weapon within their own borders and now they’re targeting somewhere else. They want to freely push right wing ideologies and make right wing politicians look good everywhere. Says a lot that in order to achieve that, they need to do things like remove fact checking. But it’s been proven now that ‘alternate facts’ are very effective at convincing masses of people that you’re a free speech warrior while burning books in their faces, or that you care about the kids while campaigning for child marriage and child labour, just for a couple of examples.

It’s convinced working class people that union busting, eternally greedy, multi-billionaires are their ‘anti-establishment’ heroes. And it’s convinced whiny, insecure, porn addicted men that they’re all ‘alphas’, every one of them.

We’re entering an era where freedom=slavery and it didn’t even require any master plan or deception. All it relied on was the fact that people are inherently shitty and only see and hear what they want to see and hear. And it worked. The people they worship or openly slimeballs and garbage human beings for us all to see with our own eyes. But it worked.

Asmongold is one of these ‘anti-woke’ YouTubers. Spends a fair amount of time complaining about women not looking pretty enough for his standards from what I’ve seen, while he himself looks like a fucking rat, with a bedroom that looks like a rat’s nest. I hate downing people’s looks and I too, have been a depressed mess with a terrifying bedroom before. But also, people in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.

I don’t actually follow any of these YouTubers and to be honest the only time I ever use YouTube is when I’m in the mood for some music videos but I’ve seen this asshat come up over and over in feminist spaces and places where people make fun of the anti-woke grifters and the idiot marks that adore them.

Yeah it’s a pretty sad state that the system in the US is comparable to 3rd world countries. Here in South Africa, the standard healthcare isn’t awful. I’ve had quite a lot of dental work done over the years for a once off payment a few years ago that was less than a movie ticket.

But it’s a chaotic experience. There’s definitely no personal touch, you’re just one in a sea of people getting herded around until your turn comes, the staff are overworked and most likely underpaid so they don’t exactly have an aura of friendless and helpfulness, and you’re not even guaranteed to end up seeing the same dentist every time.

And I kinda shudder to think of what the mental health version of all of this would be. Not at all confident that they don’t just prescribe random generic pills to every second person and call it a day. I actually made a post asking for advice about it in the autism sub on Reddit around a year or so ago and never got a response, so clearly there weren’t many South Africans around there.

I’ve already subscribed to a few Blåhaj based communities from here in lemmy.world. If you search communities, you can choose between ‘local’ and ‘all’. The only difference from subscribing to a native community is that instead of immediately saying “joined” it first says “subscription pending” for a few seconds. But I haven’t needed to jump through any particular hoops to subscribe to communities outside of lemmy.world yet.

I think that when I successfully appealed before, I must’ve just caught someone in a good mood. Because to be honest the ban that I successfully appealed was for a much spicier comment than the ban that I was now unsuccessful at appealing. So the impression I get is that it just depends on if the person seeing your appeal is an asshole or not.

I started off on MySpace when I was around 17 or 18. But back then I didn’t have uncapped wifi and I would’ve had either a brick or a java dumbphone in my pocket, so I only really accessed it at work. Those were fun times though.

After MySpace I used various forum sites. I wasn’t interested in Facebook because my opinion was “been there, done that with MySpace” but a family member signed me up there. And I’d be lying if I said I didn’t end up hooked there for a few years.

When I finally discovered Reddit though, I dropped Facebook like a hot potato and went all in. It was like the forum sites I loved but bigger and better and with everything in one place.

Never could get the hang of Twitter though. I don’t ‘get’ places like Instagram either because you can in fact, post photos on other social media too. And the comment sections are a dumpster fire. And I tried TikTok but see absolutely no value in being spoonfed content instead of choosing.

Nah you’re right, I’ve probably needed therapy for a long time. In fact, I’m pretty sure that I’m lifelong undiagnosed something, either autism or ADHD or both. And definitely depression, although I’m starting to believe that it’s a symptom rather than the cause. And going around like this without answers or treatment has kinda wrecked my life so far.

The thing that has been holding me back from seeking answers in recent years is that I really can’t afford private help and I have strong doubts about the public healthcare system in my country, particularly when it comes to mental health. But I’m starting to realise that the least I could do is try it.

I think what happened with me on Bluesky is that when things started off ok there, I started daydreaming that I could put the recluse life behind and re-join the world. I wanted to try something completely different from Reddit and I was invested in making something for myself on this shiny new platform, leaving the recluse life behind me and rejoining society. For years, apart from checking other platforms out occasionally, Reddit was my sole social media, so it was a new, exciting adventure lol. I built up some pretty big expectations of how it was going to go in my head and reality didn’t live up to it. Maybe I can be ready to try again once I’ve settled here properly for my main social media fix and it’s no longer this personal project that I can’t live up to.

And to answer your first question (sorry), as I understand it, it’s not federated but it is open source and available for others to make use of the protocol if they want.

Yes I’ve seen the Blåhaj instance. I’m just still getting my head around how everything works here and not sure yet what the advantage to signing up there in particular would be, when we’re all seeing the same content and interacting with each other across instances anyway.

Something tells me that I might end up there once I get my head around the intricacies and politics here in the fediverse. But yesterday when I was having trouble with the first server I chose, I got the impression that lemmy.world is probably where I should start out as a noob, if I want an all round impression of what this platform has to offer and what it’s all about.

Because they’re evil, fascist, thought police for wanting to take away our god given right to tell entire groups of people that they’re subhuman on the internet. Unlike those valiant and heroic free speech and freedom of expression warriors that burn and ban books, police other people’s identities and cheer as a handful of conservative billionaires buy up all the free press and social platforms.

Edit: /s just in case.

Haha I was also banned there after what seems a lot to me like report brigading and have been on a tour of other platforms since. And I already used up my previous two strikes getting suspended for even dumber reasons and didn’t even bother trying to appeal at that point. So there goes a 7 year old account (probably my 3rd Reddit account in total).

And it’s funny because I used to be a lot more wild and free with what I said back when I first started on Reddit and never picked up a single suspension. But about two years ago, I felt almost like I was being singled out suddenly, and I got suspension after suspension for stupid shit, all within a few months of each other. I actually picked up the 3rd strike then too but managed to successfully appeal it, so I’ve been on the final warning since then.

I miss the little niche communities and could probably use workarounds to make a new account but part of me thinks it’s maybe time to leave it behind. Besides, wouldn’t surprise me if it’s just a matter of time before they go on the same direction as Facebook and Twitter, if they aren’t already silently heading that way. Their current CEO used to be moderator of the jailbait subreddit. So just like Facebook and Twitter, they’re also run by a rich incel.

That’s the funny thing. Usually I’m not that interested in making ‘friends’. I spent a decade plus on Reddit not worrying what others think. But I got caught up in it on Bluesky, and it’s like that sort of social media does something to my brain chemistry and so I should just stay away.

In a way, it seems to me like the microblogging format is all about validation from the start. Otherwise why else are people there putting up profiles like a shopfront and shitposting like clockwork all day. And I’m not after the kind of validation where someone says “wow you’re so cool” (I’m using the word ‘cool’ loosely in this conversation, partly snarkily but also as a compliment to the people that were ‘cool’ in my opinion, if that makes sense), I’m not really interested in being ‘cool’ and I hate that it came across that way. I’m just saying that monologuing on a platform where no one gives a solitary shit is pretty sad.

As far as bullying went, I did have a bully for a little while when I was a kid (going into more detail is one for therapy lol) and after that I was mostly a loner that did my own thing. Not completely friendless but I’ve never really fit in anywhere and learnt to enjoy my own company. But I’ll say again, platforms like Bluesky do something to my head. It feels a lot more personal than places like this.

But you didn’t come off wrong, don’t worry. It started well for me on Bluesky but for each day that passed there without the results or reception I was hoping for, the gremlins in my head got louder and louder.

I think I’ve mostly got to the bottom of it now. I’m sure there’ll still be one or two more obstacles moving forward but I keep inching towards a seamless experience here. The first server I chose was pretty bad and with this server, turns out that the problem was that in language settings, “Undefined” was selected but “English” was deselected. Seems like you have to ctrl click to select more than one and I think the first time I went through my settings, I didn’t realise that. Pretty sure that wasn’t the case in the first server I joined but I might be mistaken. Honestly I question why “Undefined” is even listed there in the first place and isn’t just a default, hidden setting. Seems very ‘beta version’ to me.

I’m liking what I’m seeing here though. So I’m definitely thinking that I’m going to power through any other issues I come across to stick around.

Very cool, thanks for pointing these out. I enjoy dishing out socio-political hot takes as much as the next person but I don’t want it to swallow up my life. You’ve been very cool and helpful to me here, including on the other instance, so once again, thank you very much.

Trying to decide if you’re calling me dull or just suggesting an interesting subreddit lol. It does seem like an interesting sub though, sometimes the mundane can be oddly interesting. So thank you.