you’re asking the refugee who just immigrated, is learning the local language, and may not have had as much exposure to web banking systems and MFA and many aspects of cybersecurity to figure out how to set this up and manage it well without accidentally losing access.

you’re asking the old retiree who has no family left to help them and doesn’t understand technology very well but understands how to open the shortcut to the banks website and check their texts to suddenly understand a much more complex system than they’re used to.

you’re asking the young adult whose school didn’t teach them about technology and they were too poor to have much of their own to instantly learn about even more tools and apps on top of trying to adjust to using technology in general.

I’m not saying that improving security or moving towards a more secure baseline is bad, but for some critical public services security absolutely does not always trump accessibility. cybersecurity and technology education is more necessary at all levels and must equitably taught, but that will take time, resources, and effort. there are ways to improve security without compromising accessibility.

you underestimate how bad a lot of people are at using technology. something like banking can be a necessity and must be accessible to all. many banks should encourage more secure MFA but i understand why they can’t require it.

Bitwarden as Vaultwarden enables TOTP.

or it turned out so great that when presented the opportunity they were excited to do so

it pisses me off so much. what do you mean theres no way to set the priority of nameservers or to force them to be resolved in a specific order? no i don’t want a public nameserver thats only there as backup to take precedence over my local nameserver thats necessary for kerberos to work!

I think the biggest problem is that developing each other underlying subsystems without the rest is a hassle. As such no one has come up with a non-systemd dbus replacement. But there is a lot that can be replaced. There are some systemd services i just turn off immediately woth new installs and use something else because they’re such dogshit (looking at you resolved).

god i fucking hate systemd-resolved

if sysv init or open rc are ed and sed, then systemd is Visual Studio or Pycharm; they have some functionality that overlaps but they scopes of what they do are completely different

So people hate on systemd because they interpret it as an init system thats gone too far and has thus violated the unix principle. in reality systemd is an entire suite of tools based around a very feature rich and robust service management suite that also includes an init system. there is something to be said about the Linux ecosystem’s reliance on systemd, but there are no comparable tools. this is why Arch uses systemd. if you dont want to use systemd, you can use distros like Arco Linux; however currently Gnome no longer works on Arco

I actually have a hybrid setup. My public DNS and my mail server are in the cloud as those are too important to risk going down. I also have a FreeIPA replica in the cloud to help manage them. Then I set basically everything else up in my homelab because I don’t care if roundcube goes down so long as IMAP and SMTP still work.

There are various forms of sexual assault but they violated his consent and then continued to engage in a sexual activity. that’s rape.

bluetooth can be a common frustration point, but the Windows shared folders should work. Do you mind me asking what you’ve tried so far?

what if your local community and the trek into town was bikeable and/or had a bus route to a robust rail network

maybe we’re dumb for shitting on the jellyfish’s way of life.

that’s because that was classical warfare with well established rules. You had bright uniforms because the enemy should be easily identifiable so you don’t mix them up with civilians. music is one of the easiest ways to communicate important information and keep people together where shouting may be drowned out or miscommunicated.

Go in grace

meanwhile i set a wait and save so i have time to finish getting ready and uber tells me it’s already arrived.

Well em-dashes can be used in place of other punctuation that is typically used to denote parenthetical information — such as commas and parentheses — but it also has other uses. Similar to a semicolon it can also be used when changing the idea of a sentence — it’s versatile and often an overlooked and underutilized piece of punctuation. Additionally, when you have multiple parenthenthical levels, such as this which is commonly placed within commas — or parentheses — which can be overused, it allows you to segment different layers of parenthetical information.

Definitely hang out with people and try to have fun, it’ll help take your mind off things and begin to remind you who you are outside of the relationship.

But I’m curious why going on a walk with a friend in nature would be cheating? Hanging out alone with someone of the gender(s) you’re attracted to isn’t cheating. While everyone has different definitions of cheating I think most would agree that violating your partner’s boundaries around sexual, emotional, or romantic intimacy is usually what constitutes cheating; hanging out with a friend in a purely platonic way isn’t cheating and if your partner made you think so that’s a bit of a red flag in my opinion.

Exist in and feel those emotions, and then let them go as much as you can. As others have said, time will heal this wound. Don’t run into the arms of someone else or try to numb this pain; it’s important you feel it. Rushing into another relationship will only bury this pain by putting you in an unhealthy situation; numbing it will only lead to bad decisions and possible substance abuse. Let yourself feel this way, as horrible as it feels, and understand that it won’t be forever.

You will be okay, and to be honest you will probably be more than okay. In a period that seems impossibly long now but laughably short at the end of this, you will become a better, stronger, and healthier person with a greater capacity to love and the wisdom of who better to give that love to. It is difficult, but you will survive. And then you will thrive. Love yourself and ride this out. You got this.

I would agree with you if this person wasn’t schizophrenic. This would only worsen their symptoms and probably lead to escalations that would result in further property damage or violence. At that point you are feeding their delusions and even justifying them.