The bass is a great instrument as it’s easy to pick up and be able to use decently but it also has a super high skill ceiling.

i think that if im that close to death already i would rather throw away my fear and get a lil weird for it. i don’t see why it necessarily has to be traumatizing.

lots of people view the computer landscape as PCs and Macs. nevermind that Macs are pretty much always personal computers (as in computer hardware designed for use by a single individual at a time; non-server hardware)

I think it depends on your philosophy a lot. For me, I’m an absurdist so for me, remembering the futility of it all helps a lot. Grounding myself in that nothingness forces me to make and develop my own purpose, not derive it from product or capital. What drives me is tied not to the money I make nor my ability to make it, rather it comes from myself and the change I want to see in the world. I looked to the stars when I was young longing to explore them, but due to our species’s greed I know I never will. So I want to leave behind a world where future generations have the stability, resources, environment, and mental & physical health to look at the stars and actually visit them. It is difficult living under a system that is designed to grind you up for profit, but in holding true to yourself and what you value you can hold strong. It isn’t about how many times you fall down, but how many times you get up.

ETA: I also highly recommend philosophy and introspection if you don’t already practice or read about those subjects. In understanding yourself you will discover better ways to understand others, and vice versa. Humans are social creatures so hold onto those you love and trust and be open to new people. Do not fear loss or pain because then you will never live nor learn, but do not go recklessly into the night. Share the love, be empathetic and kind, and help people understand the truth and think for themselves. Doing those will hold you close to the ground and give you the roots you need to stand tall against the oppression.

when you spend as much time getting stoned as I do and with as much care (I consider rolling joints and artform) as I do then yeah it is a hobby

I recommend trying to find chill roleplay heavy groups. The tables i ran were never explicitly queer but we were open to anyone who wanted to come and have fun. It was helped by the fact that the regulars at the table would roleplay in character super heavily, but never take themselves too seriously, so it always just ends in stupid shenanigans where everyone’s laughing.

We once had a young kid (<10) at the table with their guardian and when they got the final hit on a difficult encounter the entire table erupted in cheers.

thank you for having the hindsight to realize that that was probably a mistake to do. plenty of people here have been defending driving under the influence

this always bothered me. i remember when i had an ex who was learning to skateboard and i had to beg her to wear a helmet

wdym all you need are your safety squints duh

Yes, depending on the medication. That is why some medication literally says “do not operate heavy machinery”.

Agreed, but it depends on how they roleplay. As a DM i was very roleplay heavy and did voices for characters and tried to set the scene, but it was always lighthearted and fun. Like kobolds for instance, they always have a nasally voice and heavy lisp. I’m lucky that my groups were usually really into roleplay as well, and it was great. Some weird stuff happens ofc but it’s all in the context of the game. Like when we were playing Tomb of Annihilation (i didn’t DM), one of the players ended up in a relationship with one of those cat people because he was one of the turtle people and it was really really funny.

Hey that sounds pretty nice! Thats the nice thing about sharing hobbies with friends

I can only imagine how frustrating that must be. I’m sorry that a lot of men are probably subconsciously really shitty and just don’t have the care and self awareness to do anything about that.

Yeah I used to play Magic and D&D. Lots of overlap there but the D&D groups are hit or miss if you get some weird people but generally everyone is chill and just wants to not die and have fun.

Magic gets crazy competitive and I can’t stand walking by some people. While a lot of D&D players I’ve met are heavily overweight in a lot of the same ways Magic players are, it seems they’re much more socially and self aware. The people at my table also were well groomed so while after 4 hours of sitting and playing while eating chips and soda there may be a bit of funk, it never really reeked.

I am a psychonaut. I am someone who explores myself and the world around me through the use of perception altering drugs in order to give me perspectives I wouldn’t be able to achieve otherwise. Cannabis is one of those drugs and has genuinely helped me in treating my depression and anxiety, as well as connecting with other people. Additionally, it has given me a lot of cannabis related skills and knowledge which helps a lot when you live in a legal city where the weed is often stronger than a lot of people can handle. Through the use of weed I have helped many friends and myself discover things about themselves and their situations that would be difficult otherwise. I’ve made great friends and lost important relationships because of drugs, but yes it is a hobby even if you do not consider it one.

I feel that. I had posted about my relationship a few months ago and while the correct thing to do was break it off, we weren’t completely at that point yet which is why I had posted to ask.

Luckily i did get a lot of great advice, some of it being breakup but with a lot more nuance

I find this one especially egregious because as a fellow practitioner, my first priority is safety, safety, safety. i hate to see the bigotry and lack or respect

It can be

For the first point, does it help if the person repeating it acknowledges that they were just repeating what you said? I find that in conversations in general sometimes people don’t get heard so I try to repeat what they said so it can be heard but I always try to start along the lines of “Going back to what you said…”.

For the other two I completely understand and I think it’s just a weird form of gatekeeping.

This one upsets me a lil because I occasionally record the music I write, and recording off a Scarlett Solo is not the easiest experience, especially when I’m only using the that came with it (aside from like my own amps and instrument specific gear).

I wouldn’t know what to do with a lot of the expensive gear, but I could do something with it and get some genuine use out of it for my music. But at the same time I don’t wanna fall into the same trap, so I only buy gear that I need when I need it, and that’s usually stuff for my instruments themselves.