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  • I understand how much this can frustrate and annoy.

    My bp1so has been grinding her teeth for years when she hears someone who thinks changing your mind means you are (not have, but “are,” but that’s a different can of worms) bipolar.

    NT’s rarely know anything at all about mental illness units it affects them. After my bpso was diagnosed, her brother went and majored in psychology to understand her better. He made me see that he just didn’t know, and a lot of people just don’t have any exposure that makes them care enough to find out what they don’t know. Instead, we (don’t have BPD, but my own mixed bag of illness) become punchlines. I just have to forgive and move on, but it doesn’t mean we don’t feel ways about it.





  • Plex stopped being useful to me in 2019. At the time I had only about 300 movies and the same number of TV episodes. The database kept getting corrupt, causing long load times of video info pages, or perpetual spinning progress indicator. After fixing the database (and losing all watch metadata each time) three times in one year, I moved to a plain file share served from the NAS with Kodi running on my Nvidia Shield.

    In seven years, Kodi’s local DB has never corrupted. I now have 900+ movies and 2500 TV episodes. I can handle any file type, any video CODEC, can play thousands of games from the internet game library. The DB can be easily backed up and imported into a new install if needed.

    And the best part? I didn’t pay anyone to access any of the media I own, and no corpo gets access to my library or watch history.

    Forget Plex.






  • You do know that partners are optional, right? This sounds like a broken relationship to me, though maybe you left out the reasons you stay together.

    My SO has bipolar 1 with psychotic features (she hears voices, sees fractals constantly, and has had multiple full-blown delusions departed from reality), ADHD, and to top it off, is an addict and recovering alcoholic.

    A week into our relationship (in 2017), I was ready to walk as I was being gaslit to believe that I had cheated on her by having my female supervisor’s phone number in my phone. By the time I was at the door with my things, she realized the delusion wasn’t real, and she apologized.

    Things like this pop up from time to time. Our pretty next door neighbor suddenly must be my secret girlfriend. The reason I’m buying new clothes is to impress girls. Etc., etc.

    The thing is, each time these delusions (or any symptoms that manifest in an adversarial way to me) take hold, there is an understanding that I am not required to bring her back to reality. I have to take care of me first.

    Fortunately, I’m a romantic sap, and she credits me with a sort of magic that I can knock her out of weeks-long delusions with a few words and my pure innocence. But she always remembers that day I was about to walk. She knows I am always willing to walk from that stuuf. Not as an open threat. As a reminder that my mental health is my number one priority.

    If she was doing what your partner does to you, she would hate herself. We work because we care. We fuck up and hurt each other sometimes, but the core premise of this relationship is caring, patience and communication.

    If the base of your relationship is deceit and control, you may not ever feel safe enough to take care of your partner’s needs.

    Just consider that its possible that this relationship you’re in isn’t doing you any favors. You can always end relationships if they aren’t healthy.

    (HUGZ)