• Call me Lenny/Leni@lemm.ee
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    3 months ago

    My reaction would be “holy shit you’re actually still alive.”

    Convenient since my mum passed away a few days ago actually.

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    3 months ago

    They’ve been together over 40 years, I’d be fairly surprised. But if that’s who they are, I’d obviously support both of them.

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    3 months ago

    I’d be fucking pissed. You disowned me for how fucking long over my queerness and were gay the whole time‽

    If mom was still alive and gay I’d be surprised but happy for her and probably try to set her up with someone. She actually took me to my first gay bar.

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    3 months ago

    I’d be really surprised they came back to life. But seriously I would just support them and do nothing I guess

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    3 months ago

    My mother loathes the fact that my brother is gay, not even for religion reasons but because she’s psychotic, so for her to come out would be highly satisfying because then maybe I could make her feel bad about it the way she makes him feel, cunt that she is.

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    My mom? Thank heavens, her taste in men is TRASH. Surely her taste in women has to be better.

    Dad? I’d tell whoever told me that I don’t care what my dad is up to.

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        So funnily enough, she has had romantic interest in 2-3 women in her life who were very close friends that were gregarious, successful,kind, and independent.

        But she wasn’t actually attracted to them. It’s like her brain recognized “oh hey these people would be wonderful to have has life partners.”

        But she’s not attracted to women. So yeah still hoping she’ll decide she likes women. Cause my dad was rock bottom and her recent boy friends were looking for a new mom to take care of them at 55.

        So yeah, her taste in women would hopefully stay high if she decides she is gay!

  • kescusay@lemmy.world
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    One of my kids is trans and pan. The other is lesbian. My niece is trans and lesbian. My other nibling (look it up) is gender-fluid. My sister is bisexual. My aunt was lesbian. I have multiple gay uncles and grand-uncles.

    There are a lot of LGBTQ+ people in my extended family, on both sides, and it’s not a small family. So if either came out as gay, I wouldn’t be particularly surprised.

    Especially if it’s my mother, who is already out as bisexual.

    As for how I’d react? Mostly by saying, “Thank you for telling me, that must have been very hard for you.” No recrimination or anger, of course. I love my parents, and either of them coming out wouldn’t affect that in the slightest.

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    I can’t know how I would react unless that actually happens.

    This is really important for people to understand.

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    I would feel very sorry for both of them.

    My parents are in their 80s. They’ve been married 50+ years. I know that they came very close to divorce at one point, and ultimately only stayed together because their religion says that you shouldn’t divorce (except in cases of physical abuse and infidelity). To discover that they had stayed married, and both of them miserable, for 50+ years because of a bullshit religion would be heartbreaking.

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    it would deeply pain me that they’ve had to suffer staying in the closet for so long, but i would be happy that they are now free to be what they feel they need to be.

  • grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world
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    I’d be very surprised because neither of them have ever struck me as even so much as being bi (and I am, so I feel like my gaydar is at least tuned in a bit), but if either of them did come out, I would of course be very supportive.