• sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    Not a guy, but the one that really gets me is willfully incompetence - particularly around household or family chores (and the mental load associated with them).

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      3 months ago

      I work from home so I typically do the majority of the cleaning; I don’t mind because I’m a bit of a clean freak anyway.

      What I found odd is when my wife’s family from Mexico were visiting she turned into a maid and would shoo me away from things like washing a single dish (for example).

      Not sure if it was cultural or what but it definitely threw me off — I don’t want her family thinking I’m making her do everything all the time.

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        3 months ago

        100% a cultural thing. Depending on what part of Mexico they’re from, she may not want them to know that you do any chores. If a woman can’t handle all of the chores herself, it’s seen as a failing.

        Super fucked up, but Latin America is in fact super fucked up.

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      3 months ago

      Yeah, sorry but this one is just counterproductive. Guys just don’t give a fuck. No one is going around “ooh, what if I pretend I can’t do this task so she then has to do it”. That’s just patriarchy and gender roles for you. Maybe try to have a conversation about the subject of chores without sticking the “you’re evil” tag on the other person. Well, for anything in life really. Also mental load is there for anyone, I see no point in bringing it up in this context. The dudes have to deal with a fair share of mental load as well, specially with all the emotional neglect and immaturity.