For me it’s foot fetish stuff. Every damned thing else is on the table but before I could make the lethal mistake of talking about it, she expressed her giga-ick about the issue. To this day I thank God I saw the metaphorical fly hit that electric fence before I walked into it.

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    For me that would have been a decision over whether it was worth it to leave. Compared to everything else she’s okay with and all the good things she’s brought into my life the single sexual issue I don’t bring up is simply not worth breaking up with her over. Of course that’s up to each person to decide whether it’s worth it.

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      7 months ago

      Absolutely true.

      It definitely isn’t quite that rational for me. I don’t really want to compromise in a relationship very much at all. It’s not a decision of “it’s mostly positive, so it makes sense to stay together”, but rather, “I’d like to experience something, but I’m not allowed to do it here. So I’d rather find a relationship where that is possible.” I’m not afraid of being alone for a while.

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        7 months ago

        There’s no relationship for anyone ever where you can have it all. Sorry that’s not how existence itself works.

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          7 months ago

          I am currently in a relationship where I can have it all ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ it’s poly so i just go to someone else if I need something else