• chaotic_altruist@lemm.ee
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    21 hours ago

    Seems none of the 4 signs include sexual attraction toward males and females. Would love to know what the 4 mentioned signs actually are for context

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      11 hours ago

      Nonsense! It’s all about wanting to eat out people, sleep with them, people making you smile and secretly being in love with some of your friends!

      /s

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      20 hours ago

      It might also be aimed at (and hopefully made by) young people who are often very concerned with their sexuality, even before they have enough practical experience and /or self knowledge to know if they’re sexually attracted to anyone.

      I didn’t recognize my first crush on a girl until over a decade later, because it was different from my crushes on boys. I thought I just admired her a lot. I had gotten to second base at least with half a dozen of my female friends before I thought I might be into girls (I was not especially self-aware). Hell, I lost my virginity to a girl and didn’t realize it until years later. I could see this being a list for people like me, who are somehow missing the obvious.

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          We went by the four Fs: 1)French, 2)feel (above the waist), 3)finger (anything below the waist), 4)fuck. Fellatio would fit right in, but we didn’t really use it and counted that as base 3.5.

          Which is why I didn’t initially realize I lost my virginity to a girl, because we just went to 3.5. I was talking to someone about it and they literally looked at me and were like “so gold star lesbians are just all virgins?” and I realized I was being an idiot.

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      21 hours ago

      #1 You have nipples.
      #2 You like things inside you.
      #3 You like rubbing or licking things.
      #4 You’ve said “A hole is a hole”.

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        When I was young enough to not realize this wasn’t a question for my dad (5-7ish), I asked him what “dropping the soap” meant in a prison context. He explained that mens and womens prisons don’t mix, and gave a kid friendlyish answer. I then probed further, because I was aware of gay people saying it wasn’t a choice, and didn’t get how it could sometimes be a choice.

        My dad, completely unaware of how to handle this situation said “when you’re desperate, sometimes a hole’s a hole.” It took about five years for me to understand that answer.

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      21 hours ago

      maybe they just telling “bisexual behavior” not in sexual context like “you love staring at your meal for 2 minutes before you eat” lmao