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Cake day: June 27th, 2023

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  • Organized hobbies have been the key for me. Gives me a place to go, forces me to be minimally social, but can allow for multiple events so the pressure is reduced to make the most of every outing. Plus you have something else you’re enjoying. Everyone’s recommendations of sports or gaming falls right in line with this. But I have other hobbies I love like woodworking that I can find places to take classes and meet people. The other benefit is the more you do it the more you get used to be out among people again and it can be less awkward/anxiety inducing.





  • One suggestion I have to add on to a lot of really good stuff I hear is to communicate any boundaries in a group setting with your gf. Chat or otherwise. This way he knows both of you are on the same page and he doesn’t try to take an opportunity to appeal to her directly. At least it might lower that risk. It also helps maintain both you and your gf’s agency in this.

    If it’s only you he could be emboldened thinking you’re being controlling of her and he starts trying even more of the “nice guy” thing.