You aren’t imagining things. We take social cues from others. If you have friends who are weird, you will feel more free to be weird. If politicians have to hide their racism to work with someone above them, others will follow suit. If they don’t have to hide it… same.

If you are to the point where you are asking strangers on the Internet if you should stay or go, I think you know your answer.

Last time I asked the pharmacist, they recommended Zyrtec, or other allergy medication. It targets the same mechanism, apparently.

It worked for me at any rate.

A lot of men are desperate to connect with other people and for validation.

There’s a route you take when you walk to the front door, there’s a hand you open it with, there’s a way you shift your weight as you open it. Yes, usually going to the pastry shop on the weekend can be a habit too, but there really are tons your never think about.

When someone calls your name, do you look or not? Fast or slow? When someone tells you their name do you repeat it to yourself in your head? Any of these things you do consistently without thinking are habits, and anything you do consistently through mental effort can be too, even if they aren’t automatic.

Yo mama is trying her best to figure out her path in this world just like everyone else. Maybe she made some mistakes, maybe terrible mistakes, but I’d remember that it seemed like the best decision at the time to her. Treasure whatever family you have while it lasts.