I know this is weird, but someone whom I follow, I recently discovered had an OF.

Now I’m not knocking them for it. It’s just that everything they present to the public is the complete opposite of someone whom (purely in my opinion) would never do something like that.

I dunno it’s just something odd I wasn’t expecting.

*Edit: Fuck it. It’s Alice Winterhold. There. Are you happy now? Perhaps you’ll understand now…

    • Alpha71@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      3·
      1 month ago

      I’m not against someone doing OF and i don’t care that this person does, it’s just that their online persona is that of someone who wouldn’t do that. Just gave me a tad of spiritual whiplash is all.

      • Jimmycakes@lemmy.world
        18·
        1 month ago

        You care a lot my guy you made a whole post about it and are thinking about it a lot and engaging strangers in conversations about it just for an excuse to keep thinking about it. Someone who doesn’t care would be like “wow that’s crazy” then never bring it up or think about it again. Also you are confused why someone doing only fans is not just naked and fucking dildos in public all the time, they sometimes wear clothes and exist in society???

        • Alpha71@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
          4·
          1 month ago

          🙄 I have said that this is weird. I know it is weird. Just let me say this. For me this was like finding out Mother Theresa has an OF. That’s what I’m saying.

      • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
        4·
        1 month ago

        You learned a valuable lesson. Nobody is who they say they are online. Except me, I actually am a big tiddy teenage girl.

      • partial_accumen@lemmy.world
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        1 month ago

        it’s just that their online persona

        This is the bit right here that is most important. Someone online isn’t required to represent everything that they are there. In fact, appealing to a specific audience usually means tailoring yourself to a persona that appeals to that audience and subtracts anything that would offend them, as you want to retain them.

        I imagine this is a big component of being a public figure or celebrity. You have a specific image you want to project to the world. Bill Cosby had a public image of the clean comedy (and eventually) father figure, while is private life included things that were very much different from that.

        • Alpha71@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
          2·
          1 month ago

          True enough. And I don’t care, like I said, just surprised. This person isn’t like Cosby (as far as i know😜)

  • anon6789@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    Your mind filled in a lot of gaps of who this other person is, based on what you knew based on just a narrow part of their life. It doesn’t sound like you have an issue with them having an OF, I think it’s an important distinction that you understand what was in your mind is what was odd, as the picture you had of them was so inaccurate.

    They aren’t doing anything odd, since it is who they are. It’s just them. You don’t know why they’re doing it. They may like it, they may hate it and are doing it to cover bills or something. While you now know more about them, you still don’t know them as a whole person.

    Thinking about people we like, respect, etc having sex is just not something most people typically do. Most everyone has sex though. Our parents, neighbors, celebrities, church people, racists, influencers, news anchors, etc. It’s just we think of all those people in other scenarios first before we think of them doing the nasty. You just basically walked in on someone while they were in the act and now it’s gotten your mind scattered.

    If you follow them and this has affected you, you obviously like and respect them. That probably means watching their OF isn’t the best idea if you want to continue thinking of them the way you were before. You’ve just seen a more intimate side of them now, and you can remind yourself there is more to them than just what you have seen so far.

    I’m a bit tired, so I hope that all made sense!

    • Alpha71@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      3·
      1 month ago

      OK to give some background, This person kept coming up in my suggestions. I liked what they put out and followed them. they recently had an account ban on Facebook for some weird reason and they mentioned “The other site” which we all know is code word for OF (or other sites of that variety.) All I did was click on their bio link and BAM there it was. as I said to another post, it was like finding out Mother Theresa has an OF. thats sort of the same vibe this person presents. Again I don’t care they have one. I’m just surprised is all.

      • anon6789@lemmy.world
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        1 month ago

        I hope I didn’t imply you did anything wrong in being shocked by what you found out. It seems a pretty normal reaction.

        Does them having an OF make what you originally enjoyed of them feel hypocritical? Like if they were for example promoting abstinence, some type of morality, or where they playing up their supposed innocence? Or is it more like, I thought this person wouldn’t do something like this publicly? If they got banned for promoting their OF, did you miss it up until now? Or is this more like in the news where a school finds out a teacher has an OF and fires them when it doesn’t have anything to do with their other gig?

        I understand you being intentionally vague, but it kinda makes it hard to pin down why you are feeling off about the whole situation or what you’re looking to get back from us.

        People online are both real and fake, and my original comment tried to say that. I try to come off very polite and educational here. That’s definitely a good part of the real me. But there’s a lot more to me. There’s a lot more than I won’t always put front and center, but I’ll open up if it’s relevant, like all the terrible shit I did to people before I got medicated or from being raised by a kind of crappy family and I had no empathy for a long time. I still have a lot of difficulties, and while I can be a chronically depressed introvert with no ambition or self esteem, I can also be a positive and outgoing educator or comedian. They’re both me. Sometimes I’m more one or the other or even both at once. T

        his person you’re talking about can be the same. They can be formal and proper or whatever the opposite of their OF persona is, and then do crazy extreme stuff in the OF context. They’ve understood and accepted those parts of themselves, and they’re not only doing the one thing that caught your interest, but also another totally different thing for another group.

        If you just take whatever time for you to process that both realities exist within that person, you will know if they’re someone you still wish to follow or not.

        • Alpha71@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
          2·
          1 month ago

          I’m still following them, them doing OF isn’t a problem just a surprise. Imagine following someone who presents to the world like the most shy OCD anti-social person on earth.

          But then does OF. I’m sure it would surprise anybody

  • Hikermick@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    Look up cognitive dissonance. It’s basically how people justify saying one thing and doing another. We’re all prone to it, everyone has their price

  • VeganCheesecake@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    2·
    1 month ago

    You’ve made a whole lot of replies, and not a single one in which you explained why exactly you where surprised.

    I know you put the person’s name in the description, but if you want genuine answers, you probably shouldn’t expect people to click through someone’s Tiktok until they got their vibe before replying.