On a daily basis? 99% of the time it is to myself. Now I just thought „I will write a meaningful and a super honest answer for a cool, self-reflection provoking question”. Yet, here we are. Any second now, my comment is almost finished and yet, none of that happens. I almost did it tho! Oh, another one, there, just there…

More seriously, lying mostly just costs too much energy. And more often than not, too much time. At least, this is how I feel about it now. I’ve often heard “fuck, you are really a straight shooter / unapologetically honest, ain’t ya?”. One person will enjoy and like that, someone else would love to (very slowly) burn me for it — both sides have their solid / valid reasons.

The best thing, I would like to get a better grasp on is using the blunt version versus cozy version — I often get it quite right but there is definitely plenty of room for improvement.

When I was 19 I decided that I was going to be honest about everything. I don’t know why - I guess it just seemed like the “right” thing to do? I’d literally just say anything that came to mind, unfiltered. I lost several good friends and hurt my family members because of it. After that I realized that you just have to lie about some things, or at least keep silent about how you really feel.

I think that most days, I don’t lie at all. I actively try to avoid lying; I have a long history of mental health issues, so I used to lie a lot about how I was doing, to avoid worrying people, but that turned out to be counter productive. If someone asks me how I’m doing, a “eh, getting by :/ <shrug>” or similar can be surprisingly informative. I’ve been getting better at gesturing at my general not coping in a way that’s not going to give any more information that is appropriate or necessary. I’ve found that people actually worry less this way.

Like, verbally or in bed?

I really don’t lie. Unless it’s for safety or a white lie not to hurt someone’s feelings, I don’t feel the need to stoop to lying.

I accept my faults and I’ll admit wrongdoing before I lie. I’m not concerned with what other people think of me, so I speak my truth even if it will drive others away from me. If that happens, they aren’t the kind of people I want to associate with anyway.

I value honesty, authenticity, and empathy and hold myself strictly to the standards I’ve set in my mind and personal philosophy.

I don’t lie or say anything on the internet that I wouldn’t say in real life. I can’t personally comprehend the point or drive to lie on the internet. I’d rather focus effort on self-actualization rather than make-believe.

What is truth.

Intentionally lie? - never.

I wouldn’t call anyone in an anonymous place a valid primary source. So maybe I view all of this as a lie?

I think the very concept of truth should be questioned. Human memory is not truthful or accurate in nature. The very act of remembering has been shown to alter one’s recollection.

Science is about consensus, collaboration, and time. There are few binary truths and everything is subject to new evidence and revision based on observation.

I view truth like all oversimplifications. It is useful in a fake idealized world, within a lie - if you will, but absolutes are a fallacy in the real world.

I don’t remember the last time I lied.

I do a lot of changing the subject or give obtuse answers to avoid lying. If something isn’t great, I will focus on the good parts. Like if some food had a bad texture but the taste was good I will mention only the taste instead of just saying it was good or that I enjoyed it, which would be lies.