May be an incident where they could not understand how much things they take for granted cost to the normies, a flagrant disregard for morals or ethics, a blatant show of arrogance or disconnectedness, or anything yould like to share.
When I was paid to fly to the company owner’s summer home with a new computer so the owner could remote into the office from his summer home.
I was given a months pay for two days of work, the owner just wanted the computer working when he got to his summer home.
So yeah, that was when I saw someone just throwing money at a problem untill it went away.
Heh. He probably used it a total of a week too.
He used it for a few years, but then it was replaced again
I was in a contemporary fine art market and I just hear visitors mentioning about owning a hotel in such a casual way, like how one would talk about owning a car.
The first security job I ever worked was for a rich girl’s 21st birthday party at her house, my main duty was making sure nobody went to the stables and bothered the racehorses. I heard one of the kids say that her dad owned 2 Toyotas & her mum owned a Subaru, and I thought maybe they’re not so different from me after all because my parents have the same cars. Turns out she was talking about owning the car dealerships.
Pffffffff
If I was drinking water I’d need to shower now
A very rich friend of mine decided that they wanted to “take time off” and travel the world. She called her travel agent (10 pm on a Saturday) and got them to build a world trip by Monday afternoon. That Friday she got on a plane and just left for 9 months of travel. There was never a sense of this being a big deal or extravagant but more of a quirky whim.
It was then that it occurred to me that while we live on the same planet we don’t live in the same world.
It’s this kind of shit that people don’t realize the ultra rich can do. They literally buy more time to live their lives.
They don’t have to shop, cook, clean, do housework, do laundry, book tickets, plan travel, or even manage their own finances.
They pay people to do all of that for them, gaining them more of their lives to enjoy.
The rest of us have to put up with getting like 30% of our lives to ourselves.
One of the kids in elementary school is very kind giving away paper when the teacher does surprise quizzes. May fortune always bless that person’s soul.
On the opposite end, there’s a lot of kids that play with their food/ snacks and chuck it around other kids and they consider that fun. My kid brain couldn’t get it that time, all I thought was it is sacrilege to food and I can’t do it because it’s already hard to get by with enough food to eat.
All of it clicked in 4rth or 5th grade when you start to see more, sometimes subtle, variations of these privileges happening all around.
I realized rich people just sort of assume they’re going to get help when they ask for it, so I started behaving this way and people are so much more helpful.
Like, here’s a poor person:
What the fuck is going on with the air conditioning in my room? I paid $150 to stay here and I think there should be air conditioning in my room and this whole fucking vacation is a nightmare and I’m gonna leave the nastiest review if you don’t …
The poor person immediately assumes it’s a fight.
Here’s a rich person:
Looks like the AC’s gone out in my room. Could you please send someone up to take a look at it?
They just assume, from the get-go, that they’ll have full cooperation. It doesn’t cross their mind that someone might fight them on it.
I’ve found that this approach works wonders.
And even things that aren’t already “part of the deal” so to speak. Like:
You don’t happen to have a stand-up lamp I could put in this corner do you?
Like, a poor person would never even conceive that they could get extra furniture in that hotel room. A rich person just assumes all the resources available are at hand to help.
The staff will then go to their own office, or grab the stand-up lamp out of the lobby, something like that.
I dunno. I believe in social and economic mobility, and I think rich is a feedback loop between attitude and outcomes.
It sounds like you’re just describing asking nicely vs. being an asshole. Poor people can have manners, too. Rich people can be assholes.
What you’re describing has nothing to do with poor vs rich.
Your belief in social and economic mobility indicates this is your cooping mechanism.
You are finding a way to blame poor people for their inequality. That’s a much better example of the difference between poor and rich thinking.
Jesus h Christ son, the dude is sharing their experience
He’s claiming to know others minds. That’s not experience.
It seems to me like they are saying, I seem to notice this behavior among the wealthy, and it seemed to me like they were behaving this way because of a general expectation. Then they tried engaging with the world using this new seeming realization.
Of course we can’t read others minds but in this example they took an experience they perceived and tried using / mimicking said behavior and they are saying they noticed results.
I hear what you’re saying but I don’t think your assessment is accurate
I argue this isn’t an observation on one’s monetary wealth but rather their self worth.
The topic of the post isn’t about how to act rich but rather how the rich act in ways that differ from those without that status. Anyone can have a high self worth.
Claiming that people who are poor earn it by having lesser self worth is a way to blame the poor for being poor.
It is a dangerous line of reasoning that I felt worth pointing out.
I hear what you are saying but I don’t think their intention is to blame poor people for being poor.
As someone who grew up in poverty and has managed to claw my way out (still lower middle class, but above the median household income for my state just barely with my partner) I can relate to the anecdote the post described.
Going out to a restaurant when I was younger I would never have complained about anything. I’ve seen wealthier friends complain about too much butter on their toast…. Another anecdote, but I think there is some legitimacy to what the poster was trying to describe.
Poverty is looked down upon and with it often times comes a sense of self loathing. Acknowledging this is not blaming the poors for their own plight in my opinion.
But again I do see what you are pointing at.
Good point. I do think the hotel might charge for the additional amenities though. The ac thing they’d probably just switch your room. But yeah, from personal experience, not being a dick gets you some milage.
When I briefly dated a rich woman. She would drop hundreds of dollars on a whim and knew somebody at every club and restaurant to get us to the front of the line, the best seats, etc. It was like watching someone live in a dream world where they could get almost anything they wanted instantly. Sometimes I miss that feeling before remembering the full not so great reality of it, though
Sometimes I miss that feeling before remembering the full not so great reality of it, though
Tell us!
Nothing particularly interesting. She was just a very possessive person and I’m pretty independent. So I tried really hard to make it work because honestly I wanted a sugar mama to support me through college. But we just weren’t compatible :(
they’re monsters. every single one of them. not even sophisticated; there’s no substance to them.
In fifth grade at a private school in Florida, I told a kid our Apple IIe didn’t have a joystick.
A few months later he was flabbergasted I didn’t have one already.
I hadn’t even asked my parents for one. It wasn’t enough of a priority for me. (When I did get one a few years later it was with my money.)
We had a computer at home and were definitely not poor. But I stood out as the relatively poor kid there.
At the time, the “Supermarket Scanner” story painted a picture that, while blown out of proportion, is a truth about the way some people interact with the world when they have money and power. They don’t see the same things that I do. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Supermarket_scanner_moment
This guy I knew came from a wealthy family and would squirt half a bottle of ketchup on to a separate plate for one helping of fries. He couldn’t understand why we had a problem with him wasting so much of it.
Perhaps for perspective, because ‘rich’ is relative and I am always surprised how hard it is to forget that every person/class lives in a world of their own.
When I was studying, I had to work to support myself, coming from a working class background. My whole time at the university was like visit mandatory courses, study, work and use weekends to study some more/do classwork. My parents could neither help me financially or with advice.
I meet a study friend from a normal ‘middle class’ background on the street. He would spent many weekends to do short trips, go sailing, visit family, … perfectly fine and I am happy he could afford to live like that. During our conversation he mentioned casually, that he was going on a multi week vacation, because ‘Sometimes you just need to get out and see something else.’. He didn’t mean it in bad faith, I just felt like shit because at that time I haven’t had vacation for multiple years.
Now, I am perfectly fine with my friend living a good life. What really gets to me, though, is that for example the middle class takes all their privileges for granted and nowadays you can suddenly read in newspapers discussions, if it is still worth to go work if you cannot even afford to buy your own flat/house. Where I live, working class couldn’t afford to buy a flat/house for decades now, but there was never a discussion whether it would still be worth for the working class to work. The discussion is more about how to force the working class to work more for less.
I don’t remember when I learned they were different, I didn’t give them much thought, but this podcast was incredibly eye opening. Not just learning that rich people were in a different world, but the scale of that difference:
The blurb quote is good:
The lives of the richest people in the world are so different from those of the rest of us, it’s almost literally unimaginable. National borders are nothing to them. They might as well not exist. The laws are nothing to them. They might as well not exist.
But one story illustrated it amazingly. Basically she talks about going with some family to some island that was in another country, and the whole way they saw no customs agents whatsoever. They just drove onto the tarmac at an airport, got on a private plane, flew to another country and went about their day, and at no point did the subject of passports even come up. They just violated international borders and it was a regular tuesday to them.
And also just the existence of the general purpose assistants was amazing. These are people who are paid to do whatever it takes to make these rich people happy, and they routinely break the law on their behalf, and it’s never mentioned. The clients have total deniability as well as the ability to get just about anything they want.
The job could be, “help me figure out where my wallet went” (from overseas when it’s 3am for the assistant) or “help me show my friends a good time” (without mention of any laws). There’s a whole industry of enablers that are paid not to say no or tell them there’s anything they can’t have.
I have to admit, my exposure is limited to the ones who try to.influence the situation based on their position and title. Never met the likes of what you described. That was both fascinating and morbid at the same time.
“This is America” episode 3(?) When he’s receiving a hand job whilst discussing buying a boat to smuggle people. Perfect example.
yeah I’m okay with those people getting the wall if they don’t turn.
I had a temporary relationship with a rich semi-celebrity and lent a thumbdrive and they took it assuming I was just giving it to them… in fact they assume a lot of what people do ,paid and not paid, is just in service to them and cannot accurately gauge what to do in interaction not involving servitude.
They also had a bowl of change they didn’t want assuming just giving it to someone such as myself was ‘more money than I’ve ever seen’. …like they don’t understand the difference between homelessness and regular working people on a wage. They just assume we all blur in together.
When someone couldn’t understand why I got my tooth pulled instead of getting a root canal. (It’s way cheaper to get it pulled here.)
Long before I started getting hungry. Now that I am hungry it is time to eat the rich.
I’ve yet to realize this. The majority of rich people I know don’t come off that way. The exceptions aren’t the majority just because they’re in the spotlight more due to the damage they do cause.
Same. I know many who you would never guess have as much money as they do. And I know some broke people who act and spend like they’re rolling in it.
There’s a difference between inherited wealth and self made wealth. Also generational vs neuvo riche.
