You know, like “always split on 18,” or “having kids is the most rewarding thing you can do in life.”

What’s that one bit of advice you got from a trusted friend that you know deep, deep down would just ruin your thing?

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    “Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life.”

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    “Do what you’re passionate about.”

    Just no. Most things I like don’t pay well and I started to resent the others while doing them professionally. Turning your hobby into your job is like setting your favorite song as your alarm. That’s my experience at least.

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      Turning your hobby into your job is like setting your favorite song as your alarm.

      That’s an excellent analogy, I’m going to steal it

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        I used to love computers and technology. Now I get an idea about something I want to do, regurgitate a bit, shudder, and quickly throw that idea on the shelf.

        I can’t even stand looking at the inside of a computer these days. It was 3/4 of my personality when I was younger.

        That analogy is perfect.

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      I love my job, I really do, but I wouldn’t do it as a hobby. I don’t think it’s so much advice about making your hobbies a career, as it is about finding work you enjoy.

      Video games, skateboarding, riding a motorcycle, all things I love, but no way I’d try to make a living at any of them.

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        Same. I used to do something similar to my job as a hobby but now I just don’t get on my actual computer outside of work unless I’m playing a game.

        I tried building guitars for others but found that I don’t like doing things to other people’s specs. So I still build for myself. Plus video games, motorcycles, playing guitar, tabletop games, and one rotating flavor of the month hobby.

        I think you and I would be friends.

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        Yeah, I think that a lot of people misinterpret this since “turn hobby into job” seems to be the only way people think about it.

        I like cars and work in the automotive industry, and very much enjoy what I do. I also enjoy working on cars and other mechanical things as hobbies, but would absolutely loathe being a professional mechanic or technician. There’s enough separation between what I do for fun and what I do for work that it won’t sour my hobbies, but also enough overlap that my passion for my hobbies makes work far more enjoyable.

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      Yep.

      Doing the thing you love, as your work, is a surefire way to hate the thing you once loved.

      cause a lot of that love was born from the freedom to engage with it, and the escapism that it gave you.

      Both of which completely disappear if you have to do it 9-5 or starve.

      But like everything, theres always the exception. There are people out there, 9-5ing every day for 30 years the thing they love with no burnout… and they are usually the ones held up as examples, not the 100,000 other people who tried it, burnt out, and hated everything.

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        I’m doing what I love as my career, but it was a hard road to get here. I started off out of high school as a professional photographer, never charged enough, didn’t know how to run a business, got burnt out, didn’t touch a camera for a few years, then after some desk jobs, realized photography was the only career for me. I decided to do it right this time, took business courses and prayed I didn’t end up hating it again. It’s worked out for me so far.

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      Couldn’t agree more. I decided to become a chef as my career of choice after school, cause I liked cooking. Can’t remember me cooking at home once in the three years of my training and the year I worked the job afterwards. Now I love it again and cook (almost) exclusively for my wife and me.

      Liking your job is cool but making your hobby your job and still keeping it as a hobby works out for a very small minority of people. For most it either destroys your hobby or you start resenting yout job.

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      “Do what you are passionate about”/" Choose a job that you love …" and

      “Turning a hobby into a job”

      is two different things for me.

      For me anyone should try to find a job they are passionate about if it’s a possibility.

      I love Space, when I started my engineering degree I did everything I could to orient my career toward aerospace and I loved it. I worked as an aerospace manufacturing engineer and I was good at it because I loved that.

      I also love cooking but clearly I’m glad I did not tried to become a chef, I’m very happy that it stayed a hobby.

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        I don’t disagree necessarily, those are two different things in theory. However, my hobbies more or less cover everything I’m passionate about. At least the things I know I’m passionate about. Since most high paying jobs require certain degrees or years of training, and I’m also passionate about not starving, I could not actually try a lot of professions and therefore choosing something I liked recreationally was kinda implied, I thought.