There’re better words to use in any situation.
To make the point more clear. As much as people tend to use it in the way they do for words such as ‘like’.
I mean people will just say f you, instead of thinking of a witty insult or express an emotion with more expression.
For example, say you want to express that a person is fat, which one is a more cutting way to tell someone they’re fat:
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“You’re a fat-f**k.”
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“Don’t bother trying to stand up. I know you haven’t done that in years.”
One more thing, As much as there is a time and place you don’t curse, it’s not a matter of “appropriateness” to me; what matters more is the impact of what’s said. I hope my example showcases that.
One last thing, - cause I just starting to realise this matter more to people than I thought it would (nothing wrong with that of course) - cursing doesn’t necessarily subtract from a remark as if it’s a negative number in a math problem, it’s just redundant for speaking (more often than not).
Southsamurai©sh.itjust.works gives a good example of cursing is bland as apposed to just using your brain.
Someone saying “I’m tired of this fucking rain” is more boring than someone saying “I really wish thor would give us a warning before bukkakeing the world”.
I just realise this will work as a post in a unpopular opinion space if that exist, lol.
Cursing is an art, and adds color to otherwise bland sentences and communication. Curse words emphasize tone, inflection, emotion.
If you’re not very good at cursing, maybe you should fuckin’ practice more.
In what way does it add emotion? I’ve heard people say “f you” to mean all different kinds of emotions. I find it hard to believe that saying “I’m f-ing sad” is more emotional than taking time to think it though and get something such as this “I think losing a family member would hurt less than what I’m feeling right now.”
“I haven’t eaten in 4 hours and 41 minutes and now long for a sandwich with cheese, tomatoes and lettuce” also gets more info across than saying “I’m hungry”, yet people keep using the latter.
Yea, because it’s easy; just as saying f you is nothing more than a brainless task, lacking any depth.
Scientific studies have shown that curse words relieve physical pain better than any alternatives.
So there are some situations where anything else is an objectively worse option.
ETA: I’m willing to bet the reason this is being downvoted is due to the holier-than-thou attitude you’re copping, OP. It’s also something of a classist-coded cliché to claim that people who curse lack vocabulary, intelligence, education, or creativity. This is, of course counter to the fact that studies have shown that people with higher intelligence are more likely to use salty language.
Then, to curse is to show that you’re a wimp.
Anti-cursing for the win, baby.
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And this is called not understanding a joke.
Guess it needed the /s then?
Yes, it did need the /s.
Good on you for reflecting on your ineffective communication and correcting course.
Would it help make it more sarcastic if I added some f**ks in the sentences, sensei.
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I guess don’t know how to break it to you that saying “f you” is not creative without being on a high horse then.
Also, speaking of cope. To say that a person using curse words instead of a witty remark is somehow smart cause smart people use curse words doesn’t sound right but I don’t how else to interpret the ETA you made.
I guess don’t know how to break it to you that saying “f you” is not creative without being on a high horse then.
I give you a decent counterargument with some bonus alliteration and all you can muster is a strawman?
Also, speaking of cope. To say that a person using curse words instead of a witty remark is somehow smart cause smart people use curse words doesn’t sound right but I don’t how else to interpret the ETA you made.
You’ve reversed cause and effect here. I didn’t say that all people who curse are smart. I said smart people curse.
You’ve argued from a cliché and from a strawman misrepresentation of my original point. I hope someday you look back and cringe at your small-minded pretentiousness in this thread.
For the 1st point, all I read is that smart people curse, & I’m on a high-horse for pointing out cursing isn’t that creative.
You don’t seem to refute that cursing isn’t super creative, so I fail to see the counter argument here.
And if you going to say that I’m condescending for what was stated, then guilty as charge, I guess.
For the sencond point, read again what you wrote me. I see “smart people are more likely to use curse words.”
That doesn’t state when nor to what degree do they curse.
Also my point is that there’s better words to use then swear words, I fail to see how it’s suppose to matter that smart people use swear words.
Again I ask, does it make the swear word more intellient because someone smart says it as oppose to a witty remark?
The best speakers tend to not use them if we’re going to bring who says what in this.
3rd point, clichés exist for a reason. I hope that after you let out the steam (probably by cursing), you can see how - even in your rage - you thought of insults instead of cursing. Would hate to think it would show you as lacking brain power than the smart people cursing away somewhere.
I agree that cursing is often used as a replacement for “um”. But you ever really appreciate someone who knows how and when to curse, with intention and as an infliction? It’s a joy to behold.
Maybe? I find more joy in a clever remark then a person saying the same 7 or so words in a - what seems to be random - order.
You’re talking about a different issue. It just happens to feature a lot of cursing. But cursing itself does not make a remark less clever.
Maybe I miswrote it. I mean that choosing from a wheel the 1 out of 7 words to use, isn’t as clever as thinking of an insult that stings. I agree that cursing doesn’t take away, it just isn’t needed.
Are you saying there’s never a time where a curse word is appropriate, mr_no_swearing?
I think there’re better words to use. “Appropriate” makes it sound as if I’m a nanny or something; I don’t care about appropriate, I care about if the phrase made an impact. There’s not much impact in swearing other than (maybe) showing anger.
Curse words themselves don’t reduce the impact of a sentence on their own. Context is important.
I’ll try ask this in a different way: can you think of a time when a curse word seemed to fit the context of the point being made, or enhanced the impact, or felt powerful or eloquent? Can you remember and share the context of it?
I understand that using swear words don’t take away from the remark, in the same way that someone’s point isn’t discounted because they used the word “like” more than needed.
As for the second point, I cannot think of one other then maybe a movie quote since the words choosen got popular due to the context of the movie (or any media).
That to me is more of a movie good than the phrase is great, but I can be wrong about that (I’m just not sure how).
What I’m seeing here is someone who REALLY likes witty quips, but is very upset that nobody else appreciates them.
I’m with you, buddy. None of my snappy responses ever convinced a bully that I was worthy of respect, but his constant repetition of movie quotes always got a chuckle from his cronies.
Smart people know big words, but smarter people know when to use them. Making an impression on others isn’t about proving that you have higher value than someone else, it’s about proving that you are one of them. Reminding people that you’re different from them pushes you away.
Or, I might just be projecting shit I’ve been through. Maybe it’s useful to someone.
Fuck.
Swears are a sledge hammer. Many tasks don’t require a sledgehammer. But sometimes you need a sledgehammer.
I agree to an extent. If overused, cursing can be “edgy” and offputting. However, sometimes you just need to emphasize the emotion of a given statement that mere “polite” words cannot express.
Quite frankly, I do not trust people that do not curse. I feel that they are not emotionally genuine. Conversely, I feel that people that curse too much are emotionally immature and do not know how to express themselves properly. Cursing is an art. It’s a linguistic balancing act where one must take the audience and message into consideration.
I disagree with “polite” words having no emotion. Tell me you don’t get anything from this sentence “Go to hell, you subhuman pest.”
I think the tone & emphasis matters more than selecting some curse word. When I wrote the sentence, I was thinking the “subhuman pest” part was biting since it would be said in a sharp snapping tone & conveys more info than a swear word.
It’s entirely possible to get your feelings across without ever using curse words. I commend people for having the emotional maturity and the vocabulary to do so. However, I feel it is emotionally disingenuous to censor yourself with “polite” versions of curse words, for example saying “shoot” instead of “shit” or “fudge” instead of “fuck”.
I can understand if your surroundings aren’t conducive to curses, like being around children or in polite company such as a work or religious environment, but if you’re in a position where it is socially acceptable to curse but instead choose to censor yourself, I find you to be emotionally disingenuous or at least emotionally immature. If you choose to never ever curse, that’s cool too. Again, I think it’s commendable to never have to resort to curses. But if you have to use a curse word to get your point across, just use it if the environment is appropriate. Doubly so if it’s in a written medium.
I know what you’re trying to say when you type “f**k”. You’ve done nothing but demonstrate to me that you would like to seem “proper” while still resorting to using offensive language. Emotionally disingenuous, or at best emotionally immature. If you feel like you must censor yourself, then just don’t curse at all.
I get what you mean, however that last paragraph seems to be mistaking something.
I was showing how saying “fat-f**k” is shallow than the more biting “don’t get up, I know you haven’t done it in years.” It’s meant as a comparison.
I’m just a tiny-bit tired so maybe I need to rephrase it again, but I hope I made my point.
And at the time of writing my previous two posts, I was a little drunk so I hope I made my point lol.
But yes, I understand where you are coming from. There is always an alternative, more “polite” way of getting a message across, even if that message itself is not polite. Using curses is a crutch for people that do not have the wit and vocabulary to say what they want to say. Did I get that right?
I feel like we agree to some extent. However, where we differ is in our attitudes towards the use of curses. You seem to look down on people who curse at all whereas I look down on people who curse profusely. By profusely, I mean in situations where cursing is not warranted (inappropriate setting) or just general overuse.
I think people can do and say whatever they want so long as they don’t hurt anybody, cursing included. I don’t see how the use of curses actually hurts anyone except maybe the recipient of a pointed “fuck you”. Anyone else around to hear the curse word only gets offended because society told them to.
I draw the line at racial slurs. That’s just not cool.
It’s all good, I still feel a little bit sleep deprived right now.
It’s less so looking down on people and more so viewing cursing as you said a crutch.
I guess that’s on me for spilling the smug jar on my post (gotta put it somewhere better).
I also don’t really mind curses, it’s just not as great as a good insult.
I’d know, I had a few months where swear-words were all I’ve said & I look back and find it kinda cringy.
Hope this clears things up.
Woah there buddy, did you just say H E double hockey sticks?!?
Not true. Nothing quite gets the point across quite like “shits fucked.”
I always felt people who are concerned with this are compensating for something.
For crying in the sink.
Shut the front door!
Cheez whiz and rice
Fuck that lol. Curse all you want, but curse to people. Not at them
aside from your opinions on cursing, mocking people for being fat is not cool.
just like people are born with different hair color, people’s bodies look different. You can’t tell based on somebody’s body type whether they’re living as healthy as they can.
Some people could have illnesses that make them fatter. Some people are just fat and healthy. In all cases, you should not mock people for being fat.
Fuck u no
@Mr_No_Swearing@lemmy.zip This post was reported for fatphobia. I understand that you are using it as an example but we do want to avoid attacks on specific people or groups of people. Like you showed in your later posts, people swear at all sorts of things, like the weather, stubbing their toe, and missing the bus.
Do you mind changing the example in your original post? You can say that the example was changed at my request. Especially if you think changing the example will make the comments confusing.
Otherwise, I like your post. It’s an interesting thing to think through and while it seems to be a little unpopular, my thoughts in the shower are often not fully thought through and would stand up poorly to the scrutiny of internet strangers.
Edit: I’m getting some down votes. I’m always open to hearing other people’s thoughts if you would like to share. I make mistakes.
Thanks for the support.
One thing about the offensive language.
Swear words are offensive by nature. I not sure how to write an example of a bad basic swear-word example without it being tagged as offensive.
This further adds to my point that swears are lazy and can mean anything to anyone.
If I can make a suggestion; can we mark it as nsfw or mark the post as having offensive language?
Otherwise, give a swear-word I can use that’s safe to use, and I’ll try to make it work.
Thank you for reading. Hope you’ve a great day.
I dont have the ability to tag it NSFW. If you edit your original post you can tag it NSFW. source: https://lemmy.world/post/463392 If you editing your post, please consider replacing your example with something that steers well clear of people’s characteristics. See this section of the rules for more details: https://legal.lemmy.world/tos/#1-attacks-on-users-or-groups
Swear words are fine. Attacking people’s weight (or age, sexuality, gender, etc) should be avoided.
I’ll admit that there is gray area in this rule. On Lemmy there are many instances of posts mocking celebrities for different characteristics but the posts seem to be permitted if the celebrities are largely disliked.
I’ll see if I can add a NSFW tag…
What meaningful things are you saying instead of cursing?
Depends on the situation.
Edit:
To replace one word for another would be the same as saying the f word is now written & pronounce as “zulk”.
