While 100% in the don’t fake it camp, please also remember us men are not mind readers and our equipment works different. Much like with cooking and cleaning, if you don’t tell us what we are doing wrong or better yet show us the right way, we are going to assume we did our part cause we got the result we wanted and you didn’t complain or ask for something different.
Also a woman’s ability to cum varies HIGHLY from person to person.
Funnily enough, your wife said the same thing.
Funnily enough, this is the case for men too. Hence all the “this has never happened to me before” memes on TV shows in the 90s and 00s.
What I happened to notice with different girls as a guy is that for many, of not most, telling/showing the right way is a turn-off and having something the right way without showing first is a source of tremendous excitement.
With that said, we, men, are still not mind readers, and women really do have it very differently, so some common sex education, while useful, can only cover the basics, and even they are not universally applicable.
telling/showing the right way is a turn-off
I don’t think OP is talking about a PowerPoint presentation (unless that’s your kink, you do you), but more like some verbal cues “faster” “don’t stop” “a little lower” etc. If the guy has a reasonable amount of attentiveness and experience, he should be able to get her 80% of the way there. Also, little cues like that can be hot as well because we know she’s into it and stuff.
I dunno man, most women in my experience have all really appreciated (and as much said out loud) that there was communication. Sure, if it happens without any prompting or guidance, it’s mind blowing because it feels like there’s something naturally special going on, but that’s a pretty rare thing. Sexual compatibility can be tweaked and guided, for sure, but then again there are also people who just don’t have it together.
There are also just toxic people that want perfection with zero work. But that’s not how shit works, even if they can be a vocal group
I feel like as.a.woman I.have to.point out that, many times, a woman orgasming or not is not.your fuck’s fault.
I would also.like to point out that it is harder to orgasm in “normal” sex than is it with oral, so.if your girl didn’t orgasm don’t take it personally, pull your pants up and go down on her
I understand you are a woman but you really need to get control of your periods here.
Oh my god…
I’m surprised this is news to people but I guess sex education varies between countries maybe.
No sex education in Pakistan ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Agree. Let me add that some women don’t orgasm at all or do orgasm and don’t like it - yes, the world is a diverse place.
Communication is key in any relationship.
Or rather: don’t fake orgasms, make sure he knows if there’s something he can do better.
Constrictive criticism and pointers is how we get better, especially at doing the things YOU specifically like.
If he can’t roll with that, though, kick his ass to the curb. Maybe point and laugh at his weird penis first 😛
If he can’t do it, flip him over and do it yourself.
Good advice!
Also, good save on the quality shitposting by including the body shaming.
Yeah, there was a distinct danger of being too wholesome and helpful for a shitpost community for sure! 😄
Constrictive criticism and pointers is how we get better
Or you could teach him. Better for both of you.
Not everyone has the patience for that
Edit: this reaction has me weak as hell 😂🤣
If you aren’t willing to learn and grow with your partner you should stick to masturbating
Oh and that is fine but then you have to ask yourself if you want to have a partnership with bad sex. If not, break up, or “teach” by communicating what you want, what is good and what is bad. There is no alternative, accept bad sex, break up, teach.
(Technically, you could let them have sex outside of the partnership to study, but… Well, not my cup of tea)
Skill issue
Yeah, please. Why be deceptive? It serves no one.
Better yet, take responsibility for your own pleasure. Play an active role in getting what you want out of the act. Communicate. Why wouldn’t you?
I’ve heard from a lot of women that a portion of men take any attempt to provide suggestions as a direct attack on their masculinity
Not just men, I’m a lesbian and I’ve experienced this with women too. Some people are really sensitive to constructive criticism especially during intimacy.
especially during intimacy.
Well that does make sense when you think about it. That’s when you’re at your most vulnerable. I personally wouldn’t mind because lust overpowers all of my other emotions during sex lmao. Though for some people, I think it would be best to talk about it after the deed is done.
Yup that’s definitely why. And a lot of people other than the hyper sexual have a lot of insecurities around sex even if they didn’t grow up in a culture that made it taboo.
This happens when providing suggestions to anyone about anything when you’re dealing with an insecure person.
I dumped a woman when she told me she faked her orgasms. Good sex requires honesty, trust, and communication. It’s impossible to get better when either person is being dishonest.
Good, fuck her. Or not fuck her in this case. I’ve dated two or three guys that had honesty issues, and the relationship crumbled very quickly after I figured it out. Without trust there’s no respect, no cooperation, no kindness.
I’m lucky my wife orgasms easily from PIV makes me feel like a champ but really it’s just her body that makes it happen.
deleted by creator
PIV (Pontoon Implantment Vehicle)
I’m in the “multiple orgasm” camp but it has happened a couple times where I’m not really in the mood (stress etc) or the sex has gone on too long (chafing, boredom) where there’s not a specific thing my husband should start or stop doing long term and I don’t want to impact his experience. It’s only been like 3 or 4 times in the last 15 years.
37s?
Of ploughing?Look at this champ!
Would be nicer to know so you can actually get better tbh
I JUST HAD SEX
I kissed a girl and I liked it, but as I’m a heterosexual man, that’s not especially transgressive.
AND IT FELT SO GOOD
(felt so good)
Nice, and your partner(s)?
They just had sex, too.
To shreds, you say?
How is your mum feeling about it?
I don’t really talk to my mother, she’s an alcoholic.
WITH ANOTHER PERSON
As a chronic premature ejaculator, just get good with your tongue and pushing past the refactory period to go for round 2 (which lasts ages 👍)
Btw what is the reason the second one lasts so much longer?
not a doctor, but its probably the change in hormones that cause the refactory period that changes the response for round 2
The ability ‘orgasm’ is on cool down.
Desensitized nerves along with depleted neurotransmitter levels.
I don’t give a damn if the hooker orgasms or not. I just want to bust a nut and dance with the hooker dressed up to look like my mom.
I feel badly for the lots of men that believe their life is to please women.
this group includes me
Ya you just suck at communicating. It’s probably why most of your relationships fail.
As a femdom fan, I fully support this idea
